How do you know if he wants you, or wants sex?

well be more forthcoming on the dates and less on the sex then if you like him
So if he suggests meeting up, say lets go to he pub rather than just go to his.
See how he reacts with you in public.

I'm starting to wonder whether he wants me, or whether he just wants sex...How can you tell?

Well he's invited me on a picnic for next term. I don't think he's bothered about taking me out places cos he's embarrassed of me or anything. Oh I also know from one source that he's not looking for a casual relationship. Maybe I'm being over-analytical and should just get some patience and see how it works out!

SamTheMan- are you suggesting I should just say to him that I'm not having sex with him whilst we're not in a relationship? Cos I think that might seem a little weird.


Thanks for everyones help btw.

As a guy it is easy! If you dont talk much and only meet up and have sex and the rest is all small talk and he likes to go out with you and his friends art the same time.

Then he is not the person for you.

No, but he says stuff like, "Oh, don't you like me?" or "But you said you wanted to too..."...

I didn't know that about girls in general...Thanks for letting me know.

I might tell him...I feel nervous that he won't want me anymore or something...I'm such a coward.

not necessarily. Not all people are in the habit of labelling girls sluts if they put out within a certain time bracket. Who are we to decide whether something's right or wrong if we blatantly don't know how either party felt about each other/the situation at the time?

not necessarily. Not all people are in the habit of labelling girls sluts if they put out within a certain time bracket. Who are we to decide whether something's right or wrong if we blatantly don't know how either party felt about each other/the situation at the time?

it really just depends on whether or not you feel ready for it. sometimes even though a girl's been with a guy for a long time already, but if she doesn't feel ready for it for whatever reasons, then she most likely won't give in no matter what. but if 2 people have really strong feelings for each other and there is really something special they both feel in that relationship, even though if it's only been a short time, if they're both ready then i don't see the problem with it. there isn't a "standard" or "right" time period before sex in a relationship. it all depends on the couple.

i was just saying, 2 weeks isnt alot of time to go on dates and stuff so you cant tell if its just all going to be sex or not.

i did not label the girl a slut btw if thats her decision then thats up to her entirely