Best friend dating Ex Girlfriend that I'm still in love with / coping with depression

This must be really difficult, and i know this sounds horrible, but hte only thing that will help you is time. Maybe you could talk to your guy best friend how you feel about him seeing her? See if its for real or a fling?

Id say you really should try and eat something though, even if its a snack or two, something is better than nothing.
I hope you feel better soon.
*Hugs*

hi there. did u irritate her or do anythin to make her feel like crap prior to the 'time-out'?

some friends are like your friend. they're snakes who bite when u're half-asleep. look at it this way. u've started uni, they're tons of gals out there, school load is gonna be heavy, so channel your energy to the right areas.

its better that she threw in the white flag now rather than do so the day before your 3rd year exams. rite?

they're definitely many other better girls out there. don't go looking for love. it'll just happen. but in the meantime, do well in uni cos paper qualifications matter the most at the end of the day.

I've had a really rough time lately and I need someone to talk to.

A few months ago my girlfriend of 2 years left me, we were completely head over heels in love and I was sure that she was the girl I wanted to be with forever. Then one day she told me she wasn't happy and she didn't love me anymore and needed time apart. She told me that she didn't want to be in a relationship at the moment. I didn't take this well and spent weeks in bed unable to eat or sleep, all I ever thought about was her. I contemplated suicide many times. My friends weren't sympathetic at all and pretty much just told me to get over it. One friend who I had recently become close to, and I considered my best friend, was particularly harsh about it.

I managed to make it through that month, just. And then uni started, this was a huge help for me. An opportunity to start fresh and make a group of real friends, which I achieved, but I still thought about her every day and longed to be back together again.

Yesterday I discovered that my now ex girlfriend is dating the friend who I had considered to be my best friend. When I got angry about it she accused me of not wanting her to be happy. I still love her with all my heart. She was my first and only kiss and I was hers. Now every time I close my eyes I see him touching her her and kissing her and her loving him back. I haven't eaten or slept since I found out.

I have no one to talk to as I feel that all my friends have betrayed me by allowing this to happen without me knowing. I've cut off contact with everyone I knew back home. The worst thing is that he is in uni too, and she thinks that their relationship can work. If she was feeling lonely why couldn't she come back to me?

I don't know anyone who's been in a similar situation that I can talk to about this. We were together for so long and have so many memories, how could she do this to me?

I don't know about that, I've never even kissed another girl. Whenever I think about the female body I see hers, she's all I've ever known. It's like there's a barrier that I don't even want to break down.

I've had a really rough time lately and I need someone to talk to.

A few months ago my girlfriend of 2 years left me, we were completely head over heels in love and I was sure that she was the girl I wanted to be with forever. Then one day she told me she wasn't happy and she didn't love me anymore and needed time apart. She told me that she didn't want to be in a relationship at the moment. I didn't take this well and spent weeks in bed unable to eat or sleep, all I ever thought about was her. I contemplated suicide many times. My friends weren't sympathetic at all and pretty much just told me to get over it. One friend who I had recently become close to, and I considered my best friend, was particularly harsh about it.

I managed to make it through that month, just. And then uni started, this was a huge help for me. An opportunity to start fresh and make a group of real friends, which I achieved, but I still thought about her every day and longed to be back together again.

Yesterday I discovered that my now ex girlfriend is dating the friend who I had considered to be my best friend. When I got angry about it she accused me of not wanting her to be happy. I still love her with all my heart. She was my first and only kiss and I was hers. Now every time I close my eyes I see him touching her her and kissing her and her loving him back. I haven't eaten or slept since I found out.

I have no one to talk to as I feel that all my friends have betrayed me by allowing this to happen without me knowing. I've cut off contact with everyone I knew back home. The worst thing is that he is in uni too, and she thinks that their relationship can work. If she was feeling lonely why couldn't she come back to me?

I don't know anyone who's been in a similar situation that I can talk to about this. We were together for so long and have so many memories, how could she do this to me?

you're selfish man, you think that you're completely blameless in this and that you're the victim. You're not. I;m not condoning them getting together (believe me I was pretty damn angry when i found out) but she wasn't happy for months, and the way you treated her in the weeks leading up to you guys breaking up was awful. She tried to break up with you months a few months before remember? I know what you said to her then, not gonna put it here because that wouldnt be fair on you. I mean during camping you were horrible to her, and tbh you might not even have noticed, but I did and tried to talk to you about it. Kinda shot me down a bit. You are my best friend, have been for a lot more than the last 2 years. I've always been here for you and you just want to cut me out of your life?
Yeah, cheers.

there is two sides to a story...........

It is a difficult one this. What happened is obviously not good, but by absolving yourself of all blame will increase the likelihood of repeating the pattern.

You have to understand that things are not always going to go your own way. Try and look at things from a more positive perspective. How are you going to make things better in the future?

You will need to modify your own attitudes and behaviour because what you have done in the past didn't work.

Go out and meet people, try to bring some enjoyment into your life. People ultimately have to do what serves their own interests best. By lounging around and feeling sorry for yourself, you are damaging your own life and nobody else's.

The best way to get over this is to lead a really good life. Sometimes a guy needs to develop a thick skin and just plough through rubbish like this. Only you can do something about this, so take responsibility and have some fun into the bargain.

Thanks, I take it that you're referring to what my friend up there said. I've always taken the blame for things that went wrong in our relationship, and I can assure you that after months of pain and grieving I would never make the same mistakes again. I let depression get the better of me and took it out on her for not trying to help me. I never stopped loving her.

I know the relationship is over, I created this thread more in reference to what I found out about a few days ago, that she's been seeing one of my best friends. That's the part that I don't know how to handle. It's so hard to find comfort in anything anymore and there hasn't been a day gone by where I haven't thought about her or dreamt about her. Now all I can think about is how I've been completely replaced in a relationship that I put so much time into, and worse yet betrayed by a good friend.

Hi, you're right, I didn't mention that I'd been suffering with depression before we broke up and had a few big arguments, but we made up a week or so before she threw in the towel. But it was nothing we hadn't worked through before and she knew that it wasn't my fault, we really loved each-other no matter what, and I had to go through the same thing for her the year before. She knew about my panic disorder and so did my friend, which gives me more reason to wonder why they thought it would be okay to get together?

I'm also really concerned that this is affecting my studies, I have two assignments in for monday that I haven't started yet.