Please don't move mods I would like people to choose to go anon if they wish.
When I was reading the "I'm too ugly" thread and OP mentioned BDD I was wondering if I had that since I have depression, anxiety and low self esteem when it comes to the way I look I hate looking at the mirror and taking pictures with friends because I always look like crap even though people say I'm pretty but I don't believe them since I've never had a boyfriend.
But the guy I like is painfully shy, I'm shy too but I do talk to him mainly about work but sometimes he looks pissed off so I don't talk to him then
(so I wanted to know more about his behaviour)
Anyway I was searching about it and came across "Love shyness" because it's linked with anxiety and came across points that might be linked to it.
-mainly have female siblings (I thought it would be the opposite but maybe because they are likely to be more sensitive)
-more violent fantasies
-were very pessimistic and cynical about the world
-were much more likely to believe that nobody cared about them
-Some might stare compulsively at women with whom they were infatuated or even stalk them
-More likely to be friends with females
-frequent feelings of depression, loneliness and alienation
-addictions of various types
-School bullying
-Parental upbringing including verbal abuse, criticism, 'put-downs', negative comparisons
-love shy heterosexual males are assumed to be homosexual, so homosexual guys are likely to make advances on them but they get rejected.
The guy I like even though I don't know anything about his personal life but the things I do know is
- He stares all the time when I see him, where ever we are he's always staring, even though I assume I have something on my face (But I don't mind because I like him anyway
)
-He is mainly friends with females even though he does have male friends but more female ones
-He always looks pissed off, and he normally is on his own which makes my eyes sad
But he looks pissed off so I don't know if he wants me to go and talk to him even though I do if he's next to me.
-He smokes a lot but could just be the nicotine
-I did thought at first that he was gay but now I realised he's just painfully shy and his gay friend tried it on with him, but he rejected him and stopped talking to him
But I wanted to know if any other love shy guys especially from painfully shy guys are similar to the points above.
If you're a girl who knows a love shy guy or painfully shy guy your comments are welcome. Please no trolls
including comments like
"Cool story Bruh" or
"Pics or GTFO"Edit don't know why I'm being negged I don't even have rep to neg anyone