Really lonely and unhappy in London

Sorry, but that's London for you. London life is fast, stressful, and generally quite cramped. with such a high population density what were you expecting? It's why I try to avoid that cesspool of a city as much as I can.

Don't quit your job. Wait it out until you can find a different job. And don't just look for jobs back home. London is a unique area of the country. You won't find anything like it elsewhere (thank god).

Many people in London live in London already and have friends and family there so don't feel the need to socialise and meet new people. Also, many people move to the city together in groups and stick together also, as well as the people who commute. It's a very strange city in that many see it as a beacon, when it is not.

I moved to London because of a job and I'm really unhappy here. I'm using to living with friend and/or family and I find living on my own really depressing. I technically live in a shared flat but we don't talk so it feels like I live on my own. People at work don't socialise and we never do anything in our free time. I've been here for about a year and I only have two friends (I know both of them from back home).

I also find London life very stressful. I hate being pushed by a million of people and I've never come across so many rude people in my life. I sometimes feel like I'm becoming 'one of them' because I'm so unhappy here and hate myself for it. I'm trying to be nice but I'm starting to lose my patience.

I'm trying to get a job back home but it's not gonna be easy so I might have to stay here for a few more month. How do people cope with living in a city like London? I feel lonely and bored every day and I've seriously considered quitting my job so I can move back home.

I didn't think I'd love it but I had no idea that it would be that bad. I was unemployed at the time and everyone encouraged me to move. I've been trying to find a different job for a while now but it's difficult because I need a full day off to go to an interview (mostly because the jobs I'm applying for are far away). I've had a really bad year and I wanna be close to my family and friends. I'm scared that if I move to a new city, it will be exactly the same. It might not be but I don't wanna take the risk.

have you tried telling someone about your problems? perhaps your 2 friends from back home or your family?

don't keep it all inside yourself, you'll just explode in doing so

It's great that you found a job. I think maybe the next step is to see if you can do some things outside of work that are interesting? Do you work long hours, or do you have some time for activities? A lot of people in London have the same problems of isolation and lack of friends, they try things like going to gym, joining things where they can meet people with similar interests, etc. Any ideas?

It's hard for any graduate to adjust to not suddenly being able to make friends as easily at university. As a result, you're really going to have to go out of your way to make some. Join in some classes or groups or whatever and see if you can make any there. Also, your friends must have friends, why not see if you can hang out with them?

Common activities will enable you to meet people other than in work, and even if they do not become friends, it will enable you to be outside home and in regular contact with others. The other thing to do is visit the many interesting places in London, many of which have no entrance fee (the Van Goghs and other paintings in the National Gallery are one for example).

I've lived in a few capital cities and have used sites such as meetup.com, couchsurfing etc to meet new people and make friends. It might sound a bit odd at first but it's a quick; easy way to meet young, like-minded people and much better than hanging out friendless at home by yourself. Have you checked to see whether there are any "new to London" facebook groups? I'm sure there are plenty of other people in your situation, it's just a matter of finding them

It's the same with a lot of people. I totally agree, living in London is very stressful and full of rude people. No one likes to make new friends or be friendly to people they don't know. I think London is generally just mixed with a bunch of different people of all different personalities that it's hard to adapt too.