I have never 'approached' a woman... could this be why I am single?

Hello everyone,

Im a 24 year old man and Ive never had a girlfriend, this gets me down.

Sometimes boys talk about 'approaching' women.

I have never 'approached' a woman in my life.

Could this be why I have never had a girlfriend?

Of course, if you aren't doing anything to get a girlfriend, you can't really complain. Yes, sometimes people get them without really trying, but that isn't true for most people. Just go out, see a woman, and say hello. You don't have to fancy her, you need to get used to meeting people.

so I just say hello and she becomes my gf, its that easy??!

seriously though, please elaborate

where would you approach women, and how would you do it?

thats a really broad question brother.... women are everywhere, i don't know you or where you live so that's on you to know where women can be found . Town, in the street, clubs,bars,uni,libraries, halls if your a student, where ever.

how would you approach?
well first think about what kind of women attracts you? don't be unrealistic and paint a perfect women in your head that doesn't exist, be realistic, just look around in town or something and look for a girls face you like

the approach
this is considered hard by guys like you but all it is is, find a girl you like
walk up to her/sit by her or whatever is required to be in close proximity, smile too (don't over think it, that tends to happen, planning the perfect thing to say, it doesn't matter just go) and say
"hey(insert compliment/receive thanks ask for her name,introduce yourself) and talk about whatever you want to, doesn't matter what just talk...and done. you've approached a women, rejection is a thing as well you gotta brush it off and keep moving.

longest thing ive ever writ, better use this info!

re the bit in bold, you dont actually approach women in the street or libraries (they would say ssshhh) do you?

Oh the ladies just come up to you 100% of the time do they?

Partly that, but mainly just that if you're a normal, sociable person with a normal, active social life, you constantly interact with new potential partners on a daily basis. You never, ever, ever, have to "approach" a complete stranger, because you've got more than enough choice in the women you have just met or already know.

What I an attractive stranger catches your eye?

lol but see i dont let excuses get the better of me, if there's a girl in the library or anywhere else in fact and i would like to know her, i wouldn't try and find reasons to stop myself from going after what i want, id just face up to the fact i was being a pussy too scared to go after what i wanted. Plus you never know that women you were scared might "sssshh" you might have ended up being your GF if you had just spoke to her o.O

I find the idea of randomly walking up to a woman and talking to her to be quite creepy, to be honest. Am I alone in thinking that? I would find online dating much less creepy or daunting. With that, it's more like a continuation of a previous interaction you've had. I couldn't just randomly approach a girl who I'd never met before and try to talk to her. I realise that may be an option for some people, but it's not for me.

Okay.

Part of the reason that OP is single is because OP is not approaching women.

I disagree. I know hundreds of people with girlfriends, boyfriends, wives, husbands, and none of them have ever had to resort to randomly approaching strangers to try and meet new people.

The reason OP is single is because either a) he's not very social and hence doesn't meet many women or b) he's not very attractive and doesn't attract the ones he does meet.

Starting to try to act like some kind of player who goes up and harasses strangers will only serve to decrease his attractiveness and make the problem worse.

Weren't your friends strangers before you met them? Seeing as you supposedly sat there while they approached you first for friendship are they 'unsociable'? There is a fallacy in your statement man.

I find the idea of randomly walking up to a woman and talking to her to be quite creepy, to be honest. Am I alone in thinking that? I would find online dating much less creepy or daunting. With that, it's more like a continuation of a previous interaction you've had. I couldn't just randomly approach a girl who I'd never met before and try to talk to her. I realise that may be an option for some people, but it's not for me.