Ex Girlfriend Keeps Texting Me

You deserve to have someome who actually wants you 100 not one min playing hard to gt another loving you.. If she cares she will realise what she missed and i think you should focus on yourself no matter how hard it may seem.. I also think she is very confused and may be toyying with your emotions

Thankyou for this! Thought I was doing the right thing by texting her back, obviously not!

Hey guys,

Long story short, I was in a relationship with this girl for 6 months and broke up with her because we kept arguing all the time, and any time I had a problem or was worried about how she was being with me post argument she just didn't want to hear it. Before we first got together I was reluctant to enter a relationship with her, but she eventually grew on me, and she wanted to be with me so much things got to the point where we were effectively together anyway.

I went to New York with her 5 days after the breakup (it was already planned), initially we both agreed we'd like to try and sort it out if we can, during the entire trip she was completely hot and cold with me, one minute acting like we were together and the next as if she didn't care at all.

We get back home and agree not to speak to eachother for two weeks, I however dropped her a message to let her know that I love her and was missing her, to which she replied that she still didn't know where she stood with everything and wasn't sure whether she wanted to get back together.

I rang her last thursday to just finally get some answers so I can try and move on with my life, as i'm sick of feeling like crap about it all the time. She told me that she wants to be with me, but can't right now because her friends are telling her that "the old her is back" and that she's enjoying being single, and how she would never have gone out and seen her friends as much if we were together (I never stopped her going out, ever, and I believe I was a good boyfriend) and how she apparently doesn't want to settle down at 20 (we never discussed settling down, and if we did she usually lead the conversation). She asked if we could be friends, I declined as it would prolong me getting over her. I've tried my best to get her back, and show her I care, still love her and would like to make it work if we could both try. She kept making excuses every single time however.

2 days later I receive a friend request off of her on Facebook, I declined this.

Last night she texted me saying in what appears to be a sarcastic tone: "why did you ignore my pal request on fb tho?" - I ignored the text.

50 mins later she texts me "and my text" as a follow up to her previous message - I ignored that too.

Today she texted me again saying "wowwww fine", so far i've ignored that.

I want this girl back, and everyones telling me to just ignore her if she's going to be sarcastic and not really promote a productive conversation. Am I doing the right thing or should I text her telling her this? She needs to realise that we either work it out and get back together, or I go forever. I don't do any in-between unfortunately.

If she really missed me or wanted me back eventually, despite me ignoring these messages would she text me to tell me? Because at the moment i've just accepted the fact she doesn't want to be with me and trying to get on with my life.

Any help would be amazing!

Hey guys,

Long story short, I was in a relationship with this girl for 6 months and broke up with her because we kept arguing all the time, and any time I had a problem or was worried about how she was being with me post argument she just didn't want to hear it. Before we first got together I was reluctant to enter a relationship with her, but she eventually grew on me, and she wanted to be with me so much things got to the point where we were effectively together anyway.

I went to New York with her 5 days after the breakup (it was already planned), initially we both agreed we'd like to try and sort it out if we can, during the entire trip she was completely hot and cold with me, one minute acting like we were together and the next as if she didn't care at all.

We get back home and agree not to speak to eachother for two weeks, I however dropped her a message to let her know that I love her and was missing her, to which she replied that she still didn't know where she stood with everything and wasn't sure whether she wanted to get back together.

I rang her last thursday to just finally get some answers so I can try and move on with my life, as i'm sick of feeling like crap about it all the time. She told me that she wants to be with me, but can't right now because her friends are telling her that "the old her is back" and that she's enjoying being single, and how she would never have gone out and seen her friends as much if we were together (I never stopped her going out, ever, and I believe I was a good boyfriend) and how she apparently doesn't want to settle down at 20 (we never discussed settling down, and if we did she usually lead the conversation). She asked if we could be friends, I declined as it would prolong me getting over her. I've tried my best to get her back, and show her I care, still love her and would like to make it work if we could both try. She kept making excuses every single time however.

2 days later I receive a friend request off of her on Facebook, I declined this.

Last night she texted me saying in what appears to be a sarcastic tone: "why did you ignore my pal request on fb tho?" - I ignored the text.

50 mins later she texts me "and my text" as a follow up to her previous message - I ignored that too.

Today she texted me again saying "wowwww fine", so far i've ignored that.

I want this girl back, and everyones telling me to just ignore her if she's going to be sarcastic and not really promote a productive conversation. Am I doing the right thing or should I text her telling her this? She needs to realise that we either work it out and get back together, or I go forever. I don't do any in-between unfortunately.

If she really missed me or wanted me back eventually, despite me ignoring these messages would she text me to tell me? Because at the moment i've just accepted the fact she doesn't want to be with me and trying to get on with my life.

Any help would be amazing!

She's missing your attention that's all.. Until she finds another male to give her attention. Doesn't mean she wants you per say, she needs someone to feed her ego.

That's the way it feels! Although you'd think with the reply she gave me that she'd actually make conversation knowing if she was hostile I'd ignore her? Doing my head in, it's like she hates me when all I've done is left her alone?

She doesn't care to make a conversation, keep ignoring her, until she has something to really say instead of immaturity attention seeking approach... Don't feed her ego. She broke things off with you so let her go out of her way to prove something to you.

I did the initial break up, but did everything I could to try and reverse it and show her I care once she told me that she wanted to sort it out. But obviously after us both spending time alone she's the one who said that she couldn't be with me etc whereas my offer of sorting things out has still stood.

I ignored her reply though as I didn't feel the need to put up with it, you think that if she really wanted to talk things through she'd do that? Even after I ignored her?

To give myself a clear conscience I replied saying "I don't know what you want from me" to which she replied 4 mins later "Was just asking why you ignored my friend request chill the **** out".

Now she's definitely getting ignored, I won't tolerate being spoken to like that.