in that break up I slept with another guy and got a crush on him and a couple of months later me and my ex got back in contact, we got back together after him forgiving me and I moved in. [do you mean that was the cause of the break up or you slept with the person after the split? Confusing, so please claify, although its irrelevant].
I started college last week for a loan for a year and I made a few friends there and I can transfer if need be but its so much change it's unbearable. [ needs clairifying. You mean you are doing a year at this college as a kind of opportunity to study elsewhere? Where is the main course lcation? The point is you arent coping well?
I got you are unhappy because:1. Living with his dad2. No night life3. Unsettled by course.3. Arguing4. Homesick5. Neither going out and miserable
First there is no easy solution and alternatives are only real alternatives if you cna make them happen. Toy need to talk to your bf and work out what you are both prepared to do. It seems to boil down to you wnat to live somewhere in a town with your bf, that would let him be himself and let you go out, it would also remove fatehr from the equation.
It might stop arguing, might make you feel less miserable or homesick. There is no guarantee it would do that.
Is he willing to do that and can you afford your own place? Presumably its his dads house so he cnat be xpected to leave.
If you cnat afford your own place then I cant see how things would change. You would carry on with current problems which would grind you down. Sooner or later it will cause the relationship to implode imo.
You dont give any idea as to your age.
If you cnat get your own place it would be a matter of time, so I would suspend it and think about going back home and finishing your course. he could focus on earning money and you could plan for a new place together. You have to agree plan together. There is no magic solution and you will have to take into account what he wants as well, plus you need to be realistic about finances.