20 and never been in a relationship

You’re only 20. You probably feel like this because the people around you have relationships or do things but honestly it’s more common than you think to be single at 20 - 25. I’m 19 and I’ve never been in a relationship solely because I went to an all girls school and never really actively looked for relationship. If you were like 27 saying this I’d say maybe actively strongly put yourself out there but you’re only 20 lol. Society makes it seems like after you’re 18 you’re older than you actually are like you’re an adult but In actuality you’re closer to being a new born than you are to being retired at like 65. I think the age you’re truly like an adult not in terms of responsibility but age alone is like 30.

If you want a relationship go and look for one, get a dating app they’re not as bad as they seem it’s just getting in contact with someone or a wife pool of people online and meeting them in real life despite the judgers.

Ive been told i’m boring because I don’t go clubbing and go out to drink but that’s honestly just because it doesn’t interest me most of the time lol.

But you’re good man, don’t let it bother you

Thanks awfully for the advice, and the compliment at the end.

Yes, you are right that there are close friends in relationships and whatnot. But also the added 'pressure' of whenever I see my family and they ask me whether I'm with someone, I have to say no and laugh it off when deep down I know that everyone else in the family more or less found their other halves at uni (not saying I will) and said before I went to uni that I would. But hey, there was a small chance of that happening anyway.

I did try dating apps, eHarmony, match.com, even Tinder (god help me). I had a few good chats but my heart was not in it - I would love to find someone in person. And I'm not really great at opening lines. Also, one of the things I say is not to judge a book by its cover. But when you are on these apps (particularly Tinder), there's not a lot of choice for someone like me. Either I've my own standards (whether they are high or not) or I'm just too picky.

When people say I'm old for my age, I actually like it. But it does make it tough now to find someone. Perhaps when I am 25 I might, but I always remember people saying I would probably have to go through at least 1-2 people to find the right person. And I don't know if I have enough time considering I plan on getting married in/before my early 30s. But that's just me and if that hinders my chances so be it.

I have never been in a relationship either and I'm 20.

I'm a social, fun & outgoing person. So many good hobbies, interests and all that.

I have been approached by three guys at a nightclub but they were never my type.

I'll just continue waiting until I magically bump into one of those guys somewhere sometime lol.

"But I'm sorry to say this but clubbing is full of drunk degenerates and a relationship will never materialise, so that's a no."

That is a very telling statement. Along with a few other things that you said, it indicates that you may have a too negative an outlook.
A reasonable proportion of the relationships that I have had and that my friends have had have originated during an alcohol fueled night out.
It's also overly negative to label people who go out clubbing as degenerates.

I was 19 before I had my first sexual relationship. She was a housemate of the girlfriend of the lad in the next room in my halls of residence. They met at a student bar and pool room. I met her at a student bar as part of a combined social groups' night out. We moved from being merely friends of friends to kissing each other at a student nightclub.

Being negative will reduce your chances of finding love.

" I met the girl this year through a society, and that took a lot of time out of me and had an impact on my studies"

This is another telling statement. There's a time and a place for everything. Your love life should have minimal impact or a positive impact on your professional life. Your love life should have a huge impact on how much time you spend watching TV or playing video games. It should be arranged around your studies and around around your work when you start that. The 2 can co-exist quite comfortably if you are properly organised and doing the right things at the right time.

You're only 20 years old. Relax.

Some very solid advice and suggestions posted on this thread already.

You have plenty of time to experience this.

Focus on your future, do things that make you happy, fill you with joy. Partake in your passions.

You can meet females through online dating, speed dating, joining clubs out of interest, going to bars, coffee shops, through education, work, your network, social circle and approaching.

Be confident in yourself and put your best self forward-dress well, groom well, have a good hairstyle.

Cheering you all on from the sideline!

(I am single, so I’m not being inconsiderate about you all still being single too, but since I’m living in the US, I can’t do really anything to help. I do hope people in the UK do find each other though. Clearly there are a lot of singles like us that are looking for each other and we just can’t seem to meet each other. Quite frustrating when you realize it. Perhaps there should be a giant get-together for everyone to have a better chance at finding other singles that would have mutual interest in each other. But that’s me just spit balling, all of you would have to try to do that yourselves if you really wanted to try to find someone in such a manner. Either way, best of luck. I really do hope we all find someone worth loving someday.)