Help with my Emotions

I would say get to know her, this would help you realise she is a complete different person to your ex

I would say get to know her, this would help you realise she is a complete different person to your ex

Thanks for the advice, yeah I've also been advised to expose myself to this person by other friends, so I think that's what I'll do. They look similar and are from the same country so I think my brain just makes the connection.

Hopefully it isn’t her stalking you ahaha

haha people from her country tend to look/act similar, she's Dutch. They're almost all blonde, 5 foot 6 - 5 foot 10, bubbly and speak English in an American accent

I'm not sure if there's much you can do - you can't really help an instinctive response like that.
If getting to know her works, great - if not you may just have to avoid her depending on how uncomfortable this makes you.

I don’t know any Dutch people lol but good luck :3

I'm going to try getting to know her but if that doesn't work then yeah, maybe I'll avoid them. It's crazy, from a logical perspective, I know it's silly. One of my friends does like her and he is trying to make a move. I defo won't be but just the thought of my mate getting with her feels pretty ****

Sometimes all you can really do is go "for personal reasons, it's not a good idea for me to do this" and move on, yeah. Illogical or not, it is what is is - we're not very rational creatures!

It sounds like you maybe do have quite a lot of baggage with this ex, though - have you talked to anyone about it?

100% do not planto hit on this person because it would be really unhealthy. At the moment, she is just in the friendship circle, but I can see her and my friend dating in the future.

Regarding my ex, yeah I got hurt pretty bad, I have briefly, but not in too much detail..