Have you ever loved someone with anger issues?

Deal with it by leaving; anger is toxic in a relationship.

Deal with it by leaving; anger is toxic in a relationship.

you don't think it's solvable? would you say there is no love if it's toxic like this?

you don't think it's solvable? would you say there is no love if it's toxic like this?

There may be love, but it's not acceptable if the other person keeps being angry, especially if it for very slight reasons. I was married to an angry person and later had a relationship with an angry person as well. Recently I have met someone without anger issues and believe me, it's like being let out of prison. I just wish I had met him sooner. Don't put up with terrible treatment. You deserve better.

My daughter used to date someone with anger issues and it was one drama after another. He was never happy because he saw darkness in everything, he even described himself as a dark cloud. For the sake of your mental health, it is best to accept they won't change and leave them before you get any more deeply involved.

Bit sad seeing people getting told to dump people with any anger issues instantly, I doubt they'd be so quick to openly throw other mental health issues on the scrap heap.

Bit sad seeing people getting told to dump people with any anger issues instantly, I doubt they'd be so quick to openly throw other mental health issues on the scrap heap.

You have no idea what my daughter went through by being in a relationship with someone with anger issues. His emotional abuse of her escalated over time and by the end was becoming physical. That was the point at which she gave up on him although she did love him very much.

I don't think/hope anyone would suggest such extremes are acceptable, but some posters attitudes came off as pretty dismissive and offensive imo. I have mild anger issues but these have never once resulted in physical or openly emotional abuse of a partner, ever. So it's feels a bit low to see people writing you off completely as someone to leave instantly with no exceptions. Like I don't deserve to be loved, yeah?

Equally it could be argued that you are writing off the experiences of people who have lived with people with anger issues and suffered emotionally (and sometimes more) from the experience.

I don't want to get personal with you at all, and it sounds like your own anger issues are mild. But it is very hard living with people who do have serious anger issues and unless they accept the need for counselling etc, there is not much hope of them being able to change. The problems are often very deep rooted dating back to childhood experiences. I can sympathise with those people but unless they accept they have a problem and are really trying to get to the bottom of it with cognitative therapy etc, I'm afraid I would see it as a red flag in a relationship.

Recently I have met someone without anger issues and believe me, it's like being let out of prison. I just wish I had met him sooner.

I don't think/hope anyone would suggest such extremes are acceptable, but some posters attitudes came off as pretty dismissive and offensive imo. I have mild anger issues but these have never once resulted in physical or openly emotional abuse of a partner, ever. So it's feels a bit low to see people writing you off completely as someone to leave instantly with no exceptions. Like I don't deserve to be loved, yeah?

Equally it could be argued that you are writing off the experiences of people who have lived with people with anger issues and suffered emotionally (and sometimes more) from the experience.

I don't want to get personal with you at all, and it sounds like your own anger issues are mild. But it is very hard living with people who do have serious anger issues and unless they accept the need for counselling etc, there is not much hope of them being able to change. The problems are often very deep rooted dating back to childhood experiences. I can sympathise with those people but unless they accept they have a problem and are really trying to get to the bottom of it with cognitative therapy etc, I'm afraid I would see it as a red flag in a relationship.