This article is a perfect example of pre-selection. The majority of women on Tinder and IRL go for a very small minority of guys that lots of other women are interested in too, which makes those guys hard to tie down. I think I should stress that the majority of guys on Tinder do not have the same experience as this guy does. Tinder is weighted heavily in favour of women over men, which means attractive women will always have unlimited options whereas not all guys have the same. I think there was a study that said men on Tinder swipe right something like 60% of the time whereas women only swipe right 14-15% of the time. Can't remember the exact numbers but they were something along those lines. Anybody, male or female, who has lots of options on Tinder, is going to exercise all their options and become more picky over who they respond to, who they choose to date and spend time with. This also leads to a phobia of settling. Women with lots of dating options will refuse to settle, and it looks like this guy with lots of options has the same problem. That's why nobody should go on Tinder looking for serious long-term relationships - because the majority of people are only on there to exercise their options.
I like that this woman handled the situation gracefully and asked for feedback to see what she could do better next time. It's great that the guy was honest and actually responded to the question. Most men don't get any kind of clarification from women when dates don't go well - just instant ignore and block. Lots of women would take 2 failed dates a lot further and complain that "all men are bad" based on their experiences with pre-selected men on Tinder. No, in fact it's only the men she has chosen who don't want her while all other men are invisible to her. Women have a much longer list of metrics for measuring their level of attraction to a man, whereas men's lists are much shorter. I think this woman probably realises that being aged 30, she is competing with lots of younger and more attractive women for the attention of this one guy. Glad to see she handled it like a pro.