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I hate my year abroad

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Original post by Anonymous
I have no idea, this is what I asked them in a meeting and they just said "I don't know how you want me to respond to that".

Stay but contact the student union to get your uni to intervene.
Original post by Muttley79
Why did they send you to somewhere they knew was bad?


I don't think the word "bad" is appropriate. University in Spain, France and Italy is completely different to the U.K.Little value is placed on the social side. Because home students pay very little, if anything at all in the way of fees, the infrastructure is very basic. Mental health is not considered to be a problem addressed by the universities but by the families, as most students study from home and commute. I'm surprised that no one warned you, and that last year's cohort didn't speak about their experiences.
Original post by Anayaanaya
What a terrible and immature response.

Do you relise your comment could tip somebody over the edge? If you have nothing motivational or even kind to say, move on without replying.

For the record, i won't be personally getting in to a online war of words with you, as i am far too professional and mature for that.

To the person asking for advice-give it a few nore weeks, everything takes time to adapt too. Use positive body language ie smiling, open kind gentures-these can make even the meanest people change there concept of you. Finally, if after this time you are still not happy to the point it affects your mental wellbeing-then go back home and build yourself back up to go again. Dragging yourself down mentally will only result in a negative outcome.


Thank you for your response, it is really helpful. I'm going to try and keep going because I don't just want to quit and give it up, but like you said if it gets to a point where it is so bad it is affecting my mental health then I will leave and just have to take the time out.
Original post by Anonymous
I don't think the word "bad" is appropriate. University in Spain, France and Italy is completely different to the U.K.Little value is placed on the social side. Because home students pay very little, if anything at all in the way of fees, the infrastructure is very basic. Mental health is not considered to be a problem addressed by the universities but by the families, as most students study from home and commute. I'm surprised that no one warned you, and that last year's cohort didn't speak about their experiences.

Your explanation hits the nail on the head I think. I was not warned at all about just how different it would be. The most we got was something along the lines of the way of life is different and there will be some culture shock but you will be fine. As I have been going to Spain my whole life for holidays, I was expecting it to be how my holidays were, but it became clear quite quickly that this isn't the case.

The students we spoke to just said it was amazing, it's a great opportunity and the beaches are fun, etc, and I never got anything other than this. I feel like if we were actually explained the severity of the cultural difference and the difference in the quality of education, I would have reconsidered my choice of coming here.

Hopefully my experience helps other people who are looking to go abroad to understand that the differences aren't minimal, as I thought they would be, but they are extortionate and should be investigated before making the choice to go.
Original post by Anonymous
Your explanation hits the nail on the head I think. I was not warned at all about just how different it would be. The most we got was something along the lines of the way of life is different and there will be some culture shock but you will be fine. As I have been going to Spain my whole life for holidays, I was expecting it to be how my holidays were, but it became clear quite quickly that this isn't the case.

The students we spoke to just said it was amazing, it's a great opportunity and the beaches are fun, etc, and I never got anything other than this. I feel like if we were actually explained the severity of the cultural difference and the difference in the quality of education, I would have reconsidered my choice of coming here.

Hopefully my experience helps other people who are looking to go abroad to understand that the differences aren't minimal, as I thought they would be, but they are extortionate and should be investigated before making the choice to go.


The teaching in most universities is actually of very good quality, it's just the package is different.If you can manage to finish the year you'll find that academically you will have achieved a lot, but if you find that it is making you too anxious don't wait to become completely depressed before taking action.If you have to redo a year, it's not the end of the world.One year in a lifetime is nothing.
Original post by Anonymous
My plan is to do it for as long as I can cope with it. My exams for the first semester are in Jan, so I will do those and re-evaluate my situation then depending on how my exams go. I want to do the whole year so that I can say I gave it a go and tried, but I am not sure if it is worth the feeling I have :frown:

If you're really struggling, it's not worth staying a year. Waiting until you've finished your Jan exams is a good plan 👍🏻
Your university needs to realise it can't keep sending students to the partner uni because of low satisfaction.
Original post by rosy_posy
If you're really struggling, it's not worth staying a year. Waiting until you've finished your Jan exams is a good plan 👍🏻
Your university needs to realise it can't keep sending students to the partner uni because of low satisfaction.


It's not a question of not sending students to universities with low satisfaction, it's sending students to universities abroad without adequate preparation. Apart from schools in the Netherlands, most of the other European state run universities have a complex different approach to the U.K. Students are their to learn and the social aspect is a very minor consideration, in some cases even badly seen as it detracts from the seriousness of the academic reputation in their point of view.
So in order for exchange programs to work the students need to appreciate the difference before accepting a year abroad, or if not choose to study outside of Europe but with significantly higher costs.
Original post by Anonymous
It's not a question of not sending students to universities with low satisfaction, it's sending students to universities abroad without adequate preparation. Apart from schools in the Netherlands, most of the other European state run universities have a complex different approach to the U.K. Students are their to learn and the social aspect is a very minor consideration, in some cases even badly seen as it detracts from the seriousness of the academic reputation in their point of view.
So in order for exchange programs to work the students need to appreciate the difference before accepting a year abroad, or if not choose to study outside of Europe but with significantly higher costs.

In order for them to "appreciate the difference", they need to be informed by their home university about what it's really like to study abroad. Or they could be given the opportunity to look at reviews from past international students there.
The OP and others in her year abroad were misled to think that studying abroad at that university was a good option. Not to mention that neither universities couldn't care less about students' mental wellbeing.
Original post by rosy_posy
In order for them to "appreciate the difference", they need to be informed by their home university about what it's really like to study abroad. Or they could be given the opportunity to look at reviews from past international students there.
The OP and others in her year abroad were misled to think that studying abroad at that university was a good option. Not to mention that neither universities couldn't care less about students' mental wellbeing.


Exactly!! I expressed myself badly. I believe it's not the fault of the receiving uni, but rather that the U.K schools did not advise their students correctly. They really should be honest about what the year abroad entails and not sell it as an equivalent experience to the U.K because it really isn't!! Being forewarned makes things a lot easier to handle. If we expect less we are always pleased by an unexpected bonus, but when it's the other way round it's a recipe for failure.
Original post by Anonymous

- The workload is insanely large in comparison to the UK so I feel like I have no time for myself - if I am not studying/completing an assignment I feel like I am procrastinating and wasting time

this comment i find hilarious. You are actually getting value for your buck. im a language student, i got like 3 hours a week of language study. In china (granted online) i get 20.

You are literally complaining that you get relative contact hours to what you pay. It honestly surprises me how many people on here are willing to be ripped off as long as the work load is easy. I would argue the work load you are getting is how it should be in the UK.

Also be grateful you got to go abroad. All of the students studying chinese/Japanese last year, this year and looking quite likely next year haven't and wont be going.
Original post by idontgiveaduck
this comment i find hilarious. You are actually getting value for your buck. im a language student, i got like 3 hours a week of language study. In china (granted online) i get 20.

You are literally complaining that you get relative contact hours to what you pay. It honestly surprises me how many people on here are willing to be ripped off as long as the work load is easy. I would argue the work load you are getting is how it should be in the UK.

Also be grateful you got to go abroad. All of the students studying chinese/Japanese last year, this year and looking quite likely next year haven't and wont be going.

Of course there should be adequate workload but not to the point the OP doesn't feel they have time for themselves :closedeyes:
Original post by rosy_posy
Of course there should be adequate workload but not to the point the OP doesn't feel they have time for themselves :closedeyes:


Living in Europe with children at uni here, I can tell you that the students have very little time for social activities if they are following a traditional subject outside of the arts. It's just not the same objective.
It's still pretty early days so i'd personally suggest sticking it out a bit longer so long as you don't think it's going to drastically affect your mental health and safety over there.
I'm sure no one will feel like you've let them down, unfortunately that'll just be your own personal feelings towards yourself.

What is it that you don't like about living abroad? Language barrier? Feeling lonely/homesick?
Original post by rosy_posy
Of course there should be adequate workload but not to the point the OP doesn't feel they have time for themselves :closedeyes:

because they are used to the absolutely appalling cost to service ratio of the modern uk universities.
How do you as in my example above educate somebody in chinese on 3 hours a week,. At SOAS (My uni) i spend more time studying stuff that have nothing to do with chinese despite that being my degree. The answer is you cannot, which is why the overwhelming majority of chinese language student i have met have been awful.

You may be wondering how i can say this. I speak Chinese to a high level already after living in China in the past and having a chinese wife. So i am a very good judge of non native peoples chinese ability.
Original post by idontgiveaduck
because they are used to the absolutely appalling cost to service ratio of the modern uk universities.

Original post by Nobody2u
Living in Europe with children at uni here, I can tell you that the students have very little time for social activities if they are following a traditional subject outside of the arts. It's just not the same objective.

It isn't the same student experience at every university though. Oxford and Cambridge are known for setting very high workloads for their students, which is okay because they are of that academic calibre to handle it. In OP's case, having a suddenly increased workload can feel overwhelming.
Original post by rosy_posy
It isn't the same student experience at every university though. Oxford and Cambridge are known for setting very high workloads for their students, which is okay because they are of that academic calibre to handle it. In OP's case, having a suddenly increased workload can feel overwhelming.

the idea that only oxford and Cambridge students are intelligent enough to handle (academic calibre) is quite frankly ridiculous. Im in shock you actually typed that.

if you cant handle the heat get out of the kitchen. OP is at at uni, not the women's auxiliary balloon core
Polite reminder to keep replies constructive to the position that the OP's finds themselves in.
Original post by rosy_posy
It isn't the same student experience at every university though. Oxford and Cambridge are known for setting very high workloads for their students, which is okay because they are of that academic calibre to handle it. In OP's case, having a suddenly increased workload can feel overwhelming.

I completely understand what you are getting at and can imagine that O.P can feel overwhelmed, but that isn't the fault of the welcoming institution. Her own university should have been clearer about the situation before allowing or encouraging students to attend these universities.
Original post by Nobody2u
I completely understand what you are getting at and can imagine that O.P can feel overwhelmed, but that isn't the fault of the welcoming institution. Her own university should have been clearer about the situation before allowing or encouraging students to attend these universities.

yea boy !!!!!

PREACH
Original post by Nobody2u
I completely understand what you are getting at and can imagine that O.P can feel overwhelmed, but that isn't the fault of the welcoming institution. Her own university should have been clearer about the situation before allowing or encouraging students to attend these universities.

This is what I said in an earlier post, it's true.

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