My first love is happy and in love with the girl he cheated on me with.

I feel so broken and second best. How can people build a relationship that started on such lies? Also, how can he be so happy with somebody he broke my heart for? I'd feel so guilty. I don't know, perhaps that's just me. I was just wondering if anybody is going through the same thing.

I feel so broken and second best. How can people build a relationship that started on such lies? Also, how can he be so happy with somebody he broke my heart for? I'd feel so guilty. I don't know, perhaps that's just me. I was just wondering if anybody is going through the same thing.

I feel so broken and second best. How can people build a relationship that started on such lies? Also, how can he be so happy with somebody he broke my heart for? I'd feel so guilty. I don't know, perhaps that's just me. I was just wondering if anybody is going through the same thing.

I would be happier knowing that I was left for someone who could be his soulmate, someone he is in love and happy with, rather than someone he had a quick fling with and then moved on. Makes it seem more real and solid and not just like he left you for something insignificant.

Happens. I've recently found out that my ex is with the lad she cheated on me with and is happy. I've been over it for a while though. Helps that I'm having the time of my life in my gap year and have a great casual thing going with a girl at work.

It sucks, but it'll go away with time. Don't let that cheating scumbag get you down, he'll probably do the same to her anyway. Best to work through your anger/grief in ways that you'll improve yourself, and then when you're ready you'll find someone better. I have, and I'm happy enough. If anyone has regrets, its her, not me. Take it easy on yourself, don't over think it...its not worth getting riled up over a fella who'd cheat on you and clearly isn't a very considerate person.

How do you know he cheated?Maybe he thought about it and left you for her but didn't cheat

He obviously wasn't the right guy for you. If he found someone who is right for him, it's obviously upsetting but just think that you will find someone like that for you one day.

Wise words.

Then again, it's hard not to feel devalued like you've been left for an upgrade. I can be happy for the ex, but would resent the guy who replaced me.

I would be happier knowing that I was left for someone who could be his soulmate, someone he is in love and happy with, rather than someone he had a quick fling with and then moved on. Makes it seem more real and solid and not just like he left you for something insignificant.

OP, believe me when I say that he's done you a favour.

Don't envy her, feel sorry for her.

You'll be fine, this hurt won't last forever and the experience will only make you stronger.

Many people have experienced the same/similar thing.

Why should I feel sorry for her?x

I'm sorry to hear. I'll never understand people, if I slept with a guy who had a girlfriend at the time, I would have walked straight away because how can you build a relationship on lies and betrayal? It just annoys me that he has cheated on previous girls and myself now and always ends up happy whilst crushing others. People suck x

He told me and cried telling me how he had messed up.

She definitely isn't an upgrade, she opened her legs willingly whilst a guy was in a relationship, she should have made him wait and told him to get out of the relationship first before sleeping with the dude.