is Sex a conspiracy?

Reposting - Posted in the wrong section

Okay, Hear me out. I probably sound very naive and crazy but ...
I feel like sex is a conspiracy. What I mean is, I think/know sex feels good for men, but for women I feel like doesn't'. I can't figure out how being penetrated would feel good? They say the vagina has less nerves than the clit, so that's why most women don't ever climax penetratively (?!)
So women will say it was great just to save face, so then the next woman will say the same thing to upstage her friend henceforth a cycle and no-woman really enjoys penetrative sex. A conspiracy.
I'm 17 year old female, virgin who masturbates (the shame, girls don't like to admit that :colondollar:

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Is sex as great for a woman as it is portrayed on TV/movies/books, porn (I know porn pleasure is highly exaggerated), my neighbours have outrageously loud sex, unless the sex is great or she deserves an Oscar for that performance. Since majority of woman don't climax through penetration how is sex even good? in comparison to clitoris simulation? Is there much difference?

- If that was any way coherent -

Reply 1

llamaspoon

17

Sex feels great. Trust me, I'm a woman.

Reply 2

Orthonym

Well a lot of girls have 1 night stands and stuff, so I assume they enjoy it a lot. There are probably girls that have 1 night stands that don't orgasm from penetration. No real idea why they do it.

Sex to me is a weird thing. I don't orgasm from it, so I do see it as me giving him pleasure. That said, it means a lot more to me than masturbation. The orgasm is a bit overrated I think, after you've been masturbating a bunch of years it's just the same sort of thing over and over again and it means nothing.

I can't see myself enjoying sex with someone I don't know very well and don't genuinely like. That's saying a lot too because I'm quite picky and can be a judgmental. I'd have to be in a relationship that was based on something more than careless flirting. If I'm moody at my boyfriend or anything I won't want sex because I see it as giving. I enjoy it, and it does feel good, but the main part for me is the intimacy of pleasuring someone I love and sharing something private with them. It makes me vulnerable because they are getting more physical pleasure out of it than me, and it means a lot that my boyfriend understands and appreciates that. I wouldn't do it with just anyone because I'm scared of being used like a toy.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

Never had sex been fingered and that definitely feels good, so I'm sure sex does. Have you heard of the g spot?

Reply 4

Tyrion_Lannister

19

No it isn't a conspiracy.

Reply 5

eelnais

15

I have frequent conversations with my guy and girl friends about masturbating and how awesome it is, so whenever people say girls don't like to talk about it I'm always like :s-smilie:

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Sex isn't a conspiracy - the first few times it's like, ehh what was the fuss about? But then you get into it and....yeah...look forward to it. :rolleyes:

Reply 6

Anonymous Coward

2

It seems you're kind of asking if people overplay sex..

I'd say yes, many do. If the topic of sex comes up, often you'll notice people like to say anything, just to sound as if they know what they're talking about and have experience. A lot of the time you can tell they're blagging it.

And if one states that they find sex overrated, they'll be told they probably haven't had enough, don't do it properly, are bitter/lying because they can't get it, or are just weird in general.
Thus some people who may not be that bothered about sex will still act/talk as if they are.

So, though your first thread was ridiculed, I think there are some points that are true.

We all know about the pressure put on youngsters (by their peers) to lose their virginity; well there's also pressure put on people (up to a certain age) to think sex is the best thing ever (even if you don't) and to talk about it.

I don't know about 'conspiracy' though. It's enjoyable for a number of reasons.

(edited 10 years ago)

Reply 7

Namige

17

Original post by Orthonym

Well a lot of girls have 1 night stands and stuff, so I assume they enjoy it a lot. There are probably girls that have 1 night stands that don't orgasm from penetration. No real idea why they do it.

Sex to me is a weird thing. I don't orgasm from it, so I do see it as me giving him pleasure. That said, it means a lot more to me than masturbation. The orgasm is a bit overrated I think, after you've been masturbating a bunch of years it's just the same sort of thing over and over again and it means nothing.

I can't see myself enjoying sex with someone I don't know very well and don't genuinely like. That's saying a lot too because I'm quite picky and can be a judgmental. I'd have to be in a relationship that was based on something more than careless flirting. If I'm moody at my boyfriend or anything I won't want sex because I see it as giving. I enjoy it, and it does feel good, but the main part for me is the intimacy of pleasuring someone I love and sharing something private with them. It makes me vulnerable because they are getting more physical pleasure out of it than me, and it means a lot that my boyfriend understands and appreciates that. I wouldn't do it with just anyone because I'm scared of being used like a toy.

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Reply 8

awe

14

Original post by Anonymous

Okay, Hear me out. I probably sound very naive and crazy but ...
I feel like sex is a conspiracy. What I mean is, I think/know sex feels good for men, but for women I feel like doesn't'. I can't figure out how being penetrated would feel good? They say the vagina has less nerves than the clit, so that's why most women don't ever climax penetratively (?!)
So women will say it was great just to save face, so then the next woman will say the same thing to upstage her friend henceforth a cycle and no-woman really enjoys penetrative sex. A conspiracy.
I'm 17 year old female, virgin who masturbates (the shame, girls don't like to admit that :colondollar:

),
Is sex as great for a woman as it is portrayed on TV/movies/books, porn (I know porn pleasure is highly exaggerated), my neighbours have outrageously loud sex, unless the sex is great or she deserves an Oscar for that performance. Since majority of woman don't climax through penetration how is sex even good? in comparison to clitoris simulation? Is there much difference?
- If that was any way coherent -

It can be amazing, and usually is (between me and my partner, anyway). It absolutely is not a 'conspiracy' and I think it's really unusual that you are led to believe it is, and have these strange thoughts about it not being enjoyable for women, despite being a virgin. Why do you think you can come to these thoughts when you haven't tried it yourself?

In good sex, everything is enjoyable - whether you're doing something to your partner, whether it's just kissing in between, whether it's a bite here or there or maybe it's something to do with a kink. It's all enjoyable, that's the point of the entire experience, for me. The actual penetration itself is on another level - but again, you just won't believe that until you do it. I personally don't have sex to orgasm, that's not what it is always about - yes great if we do that, and usually it would happen, but I take equal if not more pleasure from having a brilliant, passionate 'session'. P:
Until you do it, don't make such generalisations or say that women just say it's good to 'save face', it simply isn't true. Women respond differently to sex and what feels amazing to one woman could feel the same to the next, but the former may scream and shout about it whilst the latter could just breathe heavily into a pillow. It doesn't mean either are wrong.

(edited 10 years ago)

Reply 9

Orthonym

Original post by Namige

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What do you mean? I'm not typing in English, I'm just typing things that mostly resemble English and are understood by the majority of English readers.

Reply 10

Treeroy

18

Sex is great.... it's not a conspiracy. People do enjoy it. That's why they do it.

Reply 11

Green Velvet

8

I'm a virgin and call bull**** on this "sex conspiracy" idea. :rolleyes:

Reply 12

Namige

17

Original post by Orthonym

What do you mean? I'm not typing in English, I'm just typing things that mostly resemble English and are understood by the majority of English readers.

Why would you want to do that?

Reply 13

llamaspoon

17

Original post by Orthonym

Sex to me is a weird thing. I don't orgasm from it, so I do see it as me giving him pleasure.

But sex still feels nice even without an orgasm, so it's not one sided.

Reply 14

abc101

17

Sex isn't all about physical pleasure geared towards orgasm, that's quite a narrow conception of sexual intimacy. I never orgasm from sex, however I enjoy the sensations and more than anything love having him inside me. It's the psychological and emotional aspects combined with the physical.

Reply 15

alis-volatpropriis

15

Original post by abc101

Sex isn't all about physical pleasure geared towards orgasm, that's quite a narrow conception of sexual intimacy. I never orgasm from sex, however I enjoy the sensations and more than anything love having him inside me. It's the psychological and emotional aspects combined with the physical.

Really?! Never ever???

Reply 16

alis-volatpropriis

15

OP I think you need to experience sex, so then you can judge for yourself as to whether its overplayed or not. Sex feels good, I can orgasm multiple times, so I personally don't just save face and say its good.
Although I've spoken to women that haven't ever orgasmed but still enjoy sex because of the feeling and intimacy.