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    My girlfriend is a doctor, currently 2nd year qualified and is doing a rotation as a GP, the rotations last 4 months and she's got one more left.
    I love that she's a doctor. But in her place as a GP she keeps getting guys coming in with penis problems, and it makes a little uncomfortable that she keeps seeing other people's penises, I know it's not her choice and it's her job so she takes no pleasure in it but it's still unnerving.
    What happens if I a guy comes in hung like a horse and now she's thinking she could upgrade to some thinglike that herself? Not so much that as usually people have an issue when they come in so it's usually grim, but it's still just strange to think she's been looking at penises during the day. Is it bad/unusual of me to be uncomfortable?
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    Do you know how stupid that sounds?
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    She wouldn't be allowed to date a patient anyway.

    I think you are very insecure and need to trust your girlfriend more. You'd end up pushing her away and having your worries come true if you don't stop thinking like that.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My girlfriend is a doctor, currently 2nd year qualified and is doing a rotation as a GP, the rotations last 4 months and she's got one more left.
    I love that she's a doctor. But in her place as a GP she keeps getting guys coming in with penis problems, and it makes a little uncomfortable that she keeps seeing other people's penises, I know it's not her choice and it's her job so she takes no pleasure in it but it's still unnerving.
    What happens if I a guy comes in hung like a horse and now she's thinking she could upgrade to some thinglike that herself? Not so much that as usually people have an issue when they come in so it's usually grim, but it's still just strange to think she's been looking at penises during the day. Is it bad/unusual of me to be uncomfortable?
    They aren't going to be healthy though are they?

    Doubt she'll be attracted to a penis with mould
    It's stupid to be quite frank.
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    Seriously? This shows how much you trust your girlfriend... I wouldn't want to date someone who didn't trust me just to do my job!
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    you need to keep in mind that just because she's seeing penises all day, she isn't looking at them in a sexual way, she's a doctor, she's only looking at them from a clinical perspective. And anyway, if people are coming in its probably because there's a problem, so its unlikely that she's looking at the best penises. you don't need to feel self-conscious.
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    Yes it is bad for you to be uncomfortable. Stop feeling so insecure with yourself. She's with you for a reason, and that'll be more than just the size of your penis. She's doing a job. That's all. She's helping people overcome their problems. It sounds like you don't trust her, which in my opinion opens up a whole new can of worms in your relationship.
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    thought you were gonna say that shes a stripper or something ...
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    She wouldn't be allowed to date a patient anyway.

    I think you are very insecure and need to trust your girlfriend more. You'd end up pushing her away and having your worries come true if you don't stop thinking like that.
    I know she's not gonna jump in with one of them. I'm more just uncomfortable that she's seeing penises all the time.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know she's not gonna jump in with one of them. I'm more just uncomfortable that she's seeing penises all the time.
    But you also said this:

    What happens if I a guy comes in hung like a horse and now she's thinking she could upgrade to some thinglike that herself?
    So you are insecure that she will leave you for another person, most likely due to your size, which hardly matters to most girls.

    Secondly, so what if she sees penises all the time? It's her job to look at them, she's not going to suck them off. Don't overthink it.
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    I should clarify I was cheated on in my last relationship, so I'm a little wary anyway.
    She's really good looking, so I already know I'm punching with someone who's attractive and has a good job.

    I know they're generally gonna be minging penises that come in but she's still looking at them.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I should clarify I was cheated on in my last relationship, so I'm a little wary anyway.
    She's really good looking, so I already know I'm punching with someone who's attractive and has a good job.

    I know they're generally gonna be minging penises that come in but she's still looking at them.
    So what if she's looking at penises! I work in a shop and sometimes I see people with envelopes full of cash. I'm not going to leave my boyfriend because I could upgrade to someone richer.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I should clarify I was cheated on in my last relationship, so I'm a little wary anyway.
    She's really good looking, so I already know I'm punching with someone who's attractive and has a good job.

    I know they're generally gonna be minging penises that come in but she's still looking at them.
    Guaranteed she has watched porn. Doesn't mean anything if she sees a penis.
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    What a strange hang up to have. She's hardly going to run off with someone else because she saw some men with herpes, "jock rot", or tight foreskins. She might run off with someone else if you make it obvious that you're this insecure. If it makes any difference, it is a pretty unarousing experience for men to be examined by a doctor of the opposite sex in a clinic room with a nurse/receptionist chaperone looking on as well. No-one looks their "best" in that setting!!
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    Some guy: "Hey, I feel this way, it's getting me down."
    TSR: "Hey, don't feel that way, *******!"
    Good advice guys.

    OP I think that what you need to realise is that, if anything, your girlfriend will become rather desensitized to penises and will find, out of context, little sexual appeal from them. In any case, I'm sure she would be aware, first-hand evidence or not, that there is a massive range of **** sizes, and just seeing this range isn't going to make her entertain any thoughts of dropping a relationship over something so trivial. You might not stop feeling slightly uncomfortable, and if you don't, that's not something to be ashamed of, you can't help it. But recognizing that this feeling is just that, and not a product of evidence or rationality, should hopefully help you to calm it, and to avoid letting it affect your relationship.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My girlfriend is a doctor, currently 2nd year qualified and is doing a rotation as a GP, the rotations last 4 months and she's got one more left.
    I love that she's a doctor. But in her place as a GP she keeps getting guys coming in with penis problems, and it makes a little uncomfortable that she keeps seeing other people's penises, I know it's not her choice and it's her job so she takes no pleasure in it but it's still unnerving.
    What happens if I a guy comes in hung like a horse and now she's thinking she could upgrade to some thinglike that herself? Not so much that as usually people have an issue when they come in so it's usually grim, but it's still just strange to think she's been looking at penises during the day. Is it bad/unusual of me to be uncomfortable?
    I would recommend seeing a doctor.... about that major insecurity issue you have.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My girlfriend is a doctor, currently 2nd year qualified and is doing a rotation as a GP, the rotations last 4 months and she's got one more left.
    I love that she's a doctor. But in her place as a GP she keeps getting guys coming in with penis problems, and it makes a little uncomfortable that she keeps seeing other people's penises, I know it's not her choice and it's her job so she takes no pleasure in it but it's still unnerving.
    What happens if I a guy comes in hung like a horse and now she's thinking she could upgrade to some thinglike that herself? Not so much that as usually people have an issue when they come in so it's usually grim, but it's still just strange to think she's been looking at penises during the day. Is it bad/unusual of me to be uncomfortable?
    I'm gonna assume this isn't a joke -

    Really? Shes a flipping doctor. Her job is to help people get better. Which yes, involves looking at all parts of the body, in a clinical, not at all sexual, manner. The fact you're uncomfortable with that is pretty ridiculous.
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    If you love and trust her enough then you "feeling uncomfortable" shouldn't exist. You're overthinking and getting paranoid. Stop being insecure and talk to her on how you feel and some way or the other she will make you realise that shes only yours.
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    OP asked if it was bad/unusual to be uncomfortable - yes. If she ends up a GP she'll be seeing and touching strangers' naked bodies for the next 30 years. Can you deal with that?

    Would you be saying the same if she was a gynaecologist?
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    I was expecting stripper or working in the p0rn industry.
 
 
 
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