Cousin staying over, I need ALONE time with my bf! :@

It isn't obvious why you haven't told your cousin. Surely he suspects? If he's in his 20s, then you should be able to explain that you need some time to yourself. You should also be able to leave him in the flat by himself; I'm sure he'll be fine! Just talk to him. It's a huge imposition to have someone else staying with you for such a long period of time and you need to establish perimeters so that everyone maintains their sanity.

Does it matter why I wont disclose the reason for not telling my cousin?
For starters, me and bf are both guys lol
My cousin = my family = very strict & religous

That's why I cant talk to him about it

Ah ok. Well, you could talk to him about needing privacy anyway. Talk to your boyfriend about being patient as well. A few months will fly by...maybe put extra effort into finding your cousin a job/flat of his own.

Does it matter why I wont disclose the reason for not telling my cousin?
For starters, me and bf are both guys lol
My cousin = my family = very strict & religous

That's why I cant talk to him about it

*shrug* If yr going to mislead him about having a partner you can't really expect to be given partner time, as far as they're concerned its a batchelor pad and no reason they can't be there. Likewise if your going to have someone to stay long term...and they can't be in the house without you (weird) then yeah, you're going to get pretty sick of having to take them places.

This isn't really a reason. Your house, your boyfriend, your rules.

Tell your cousin you need time with your boyfriend, and be damned to what he thinks.

Does it matter why I wont disclose the reason for not telling my cousin?
For starters, me and bf are both guys lol
My cousin = my family = very strict & religous

That's why I cant talk to him about it

How about distracting him? Maybe once he knows where stuff is a bit more you can send him to the store or the cinema or on a day out of some kind and then you'll get some alone time or failing that sneak in a quickie at work on your lunch break. Even somehow giving the cousin a video and a pair of headphones and risking it while he's at the flat might work.
I get why you can't tell him but do your friends know about you and your bf? What's his sleeping situation because you could maybe tell him that for some reason he can't sleep wherever he is sleeping and he'll have to stay with a friend for one or more nights. It's dishonest, but it'll rid of the cousin, then you get the place to yourself.

I cant tell him that, I'm not out to my family! lol. He's already getting suspicious and if he finds out, I'm screwed

Hi guys,

So my cousin (fresh grad) moved to the country I'm in and he's been staying at my place(1 week so far) for 1-2 months till he gets a job. I've been helping him look for and apply for jobs. Thing is, before he came, my bf and I have spend most of our time together.

My cousin doesn't know me and my bf are together for obvious reasons (my personal life, my business). My bf met my cousin and they got along well but I still need my ALONE time with my bf if you know what I mean..

My cousin spends most of the time at my place when I'm at work (he doesnt have friends in the country I'm in). When me and my bf go out to meet friends, we take my cousin with us because we cant leave him at home. So my cousin is in my face 24/7 and I'm getting so frustrated that I started yelling at him for the smallest things he does which I later on feel guilty about but still, me and my bf need our space at my place! We cant go to my bf's place cuz he lives with his family so no privacy there either.

Recently, me and bf started arguing a lot because of this and I dont even know what to do, any suggestions? .. help

Take last night for example. He wanted to watch the liverpool match and we were already out. I was like I'm going to go home and drop u at a pub to watch the match. His response: I'll come home with u and watch it on the laptop.. ugh

My friends dont know either (only 2 close friends who dont live in the same country). He sleeps the same time as I do. I told him I might go with some friends on a getaway next weekend and he was like ok then I'll chill with your friend (aka my bf) and if I tell him my bf is coming too, he's going to get really suspicious! He already met all my friends and has their contact and my friends dont know about me and my bf so if my cousin asks them hows the getaway they'll be like what getaway? and he'll be like that you and my cousin and your friend (my bf) that went on... and then my friends AND cousin will know about me and my bf.. see my problem