I’ve been together with my boyfriend for a year now and I would say the relationship is pretty serious. He is lovely and tells me how much he loves me everyday and says that I’m the love of his life, and I feel the same way. We go away together whenever we get the chance and I’m always around his family and friends. I am 22, a final year student and he is 28, a teacher. We talk about marriage and kids pretty much daily, going into serious detail and he’s accidentally slipped out that he wants to be married by July next year which I thought was very specific but still suprising because even though it’s serious, it’s still only been a year.
Sometimes he mentions his first girlfriend, who he was together with for three years, from the age of 15. I’ve noticed that he always seems to put her on this pedestal, saying how hot she’s gotten now (via Facebook), how great the sex was, mentioning a song that was ‘theirs’. I’ve always just brushed it off and ignored it, because the relationship ended over 10 years ago and they were just kids. But yesterday, we were on the subject, and he told me that he loved her more than he loves me now.
I don’t know if it’s stupid to be this upset, but I actually feel like my heart is broken. I tried to ignore it and we went to dinner, but as the day went on it just consumed me. I couldn’t stop crying. He tried to console me and tell me how much he loves me, and how amazing our future is together and that he has absolutely no feelings for her now but maintains he loved her more, but he still loves me.
How should I be reacting to this. I can’t even talk to him right now and I feel like him telling me he loves me is ingenuine. I guess he’s being honest and that’s a good thing, but I can’t bring myself to see him at least for a while, I feel crushed.