Toxic med school classmate relationship

I’ll try keeping this as short as possible given that it’s a very complicated storyline to explain.
As soon as we met three years ago we had a flirty dynamic which was on and off. I tried breaking it off by asking him out which was politely declined. However, the following day the flirting would continue.

Fast-forward to last month where we got drunk at an end of term party and sexual things happened. It was very unromantic and quite degrading. The following week he was ignoring me at uni. Over Xmas, no texts.

I’ve heard from people that he took the liberty to share what happened at the party, and therefore I took the - I know probably toxic move, to share that he is quite small. This is something his friends always joke about with him too, calling him a ‘micropenis’.

Now the reason I’m writing this is because yesterday during an exam we had quite an abusive episode. As I tried waking past I pushed his arm to make my way around him, at which point he yelled in front of everyone to ‘quit the attitude’. This shook me a lot and I didn’t react. My flatmate said he was obviously upset over the penis comments and that I should stop.

To make matters worse, afterwards he turned to some girls I never met before and called me psycho, and the girls agreed by saying ‘we heard stories no one likes her’ whilst I was standing next to them.

I feel like I have the right to keep calling him out as he has been incredibly disrespectful towards me. On the other hand, it’s starting to scare me as he seems a bit aggressive.

Maybe work out what you want and then adopt a strategy to get it?

The difference between his friends and you is that you arent his friend and have slept with him. One of the most toxic things you can say to a guy, so its hardly surprising he replies in kind and will do so al long as he is reminded of what you have done. Guess its some sort of war and it wont stop unless the two of you want it to. Keep calling him out and see where that gets you.
Normal people would have avoided and stopped poking him with a sharp stick.

He now believes you have humiliated him in front of everyone on the course, so he will do the same to you.

Thanks for your input - I completely understand what you’re saying.
Problem is I want a relationship from him and he doesn’t 😅

Thanks for your input - I completely understand what you’re saying.
Problem is I want a relationship from him and he doesn’t 😅

Thanks for your input - I completely understand what you’re saying.
Problem is I want a relationship from him and he doesn’t 😅

Problem is I want a relationship from him and he doesn’t 😅

You’ve publicly said he has a small penis and you’ve got the reputation of being psycho (whether this is true doesn’t matter)... you’re very unlikely to ever build a romantic relationship with this guy...

Very unlikely to ever build a romantic relationship with this guy or any other guy - which is why I am so upset with what he did. I feel like that he did to my reputation is much worse than me going around talking about his size. At least mine is factually accurate.

Thanks for your input - I completely understand what you’re saying.
Problem is I want a relationship from him and he doesn’t 😅

I’ll try keeping this as short as possible given that it’s a very complicated storyline to explain.
As soon as we met three years ago we had a flirty dynamic which was on and off. I tried breaking it off by asking him out which was politely declined. However, the following day the flirting would continue.

Fast-forward to last month where we got drunk at an end of term party and sexual things happened. It was very unromantic and quite degrading. The following week he was ignoring me at uni. Over Xmas, no texts.

I’ve heard from people that he took the liberty to share what happened at the party, and therefore I took the - I know probably toxic move, to share that he is quite small. This is something his friends always joke about with him too, calling him a ‘micropenis’.

Now the reason I’m writing this is because yesterday during an exam we had quite an abusive episode. As I tried waking past I pushed his arm to make my way around him, at which point he yelled in front of everyone to ‘quit the attitude’. This shook me a lot and I didn’t react. My flatmate said he was obviously upset over the penis comments and that I should stop.

To make matters worse, afterwards he turned to some girls I never met before and called me psycho, and the girls agreed by saying ‘we heard stories no one likes her’ whilst I was standing next to them.

I feel like I have the right to keep calling him out as he has been incredibly disrespectful towards me. On the other hand, it’s starting to scare me as he seems a bit aggressive.

Please don't take this the wrong way but he has most likely simply lost respect for you, particularly after your sexual encounter and views you as 'easy' or 'cheap'. He probably had some level of respect for you prior to that, hence the flirtatious behavior. Your degrading comments about him were possibly also a contributing factor.