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How do I make my dad better?

My dad has struggled with an addiction to tramadol for a few years now, he ended up having a stroke and car crash because of it. He left for a year to see my nanna and grandad in hopes he would get better but it has gotten somewhat bad again. My mum and I have tried a lot to help him get better and take care of him, we’ve tidied his house, bought a new mattress for room (the last one was moldy), done his chore, got new appliances, etc etc. I’m just really scared for him bc he’s buying pills online and he lives alone so I’m not always there. He’s depressed and never eats. I don’t wanna lose him and I’ll do anything to make him better. Any advice?

Reply 1

You're already doing a lot to help your dad. It must be hugely worrying for you and your family. Are there any therapeutic or medical professionals in your dad's life who give him support, e.g. GP, social worker, psychiatric nurse, addiction counsellor?

Reply 2

Original post by cheadle
You're already doing a lot to help your dad. It must be hugely worrying for you and your family. Are there any therapeutic or medical professionals in your dad's life who give him support, e.g. GP, social worker, psychiatric nurse, addiction counsellor?

Hi, sorry for the late reply, I haven’t been on here for a while, my dad won’t accept help and pretends everything is ok. I really don’t know how I’d get him help.
The only time he’s going to the GP if when he getting the pills that he’s prescribed to

Reply 3

Your dad is seeing a medical professional who has an obligation to monitor your dad's health - which is something. You know, you are still in your dad's life, trying to help, doing what you can. Acceptance of this situation, of the limitations of what you can do, is something you might look into, as endlessly trying to make things better will probably just grind you down. Can you find a way of continuing to support your dad practically while at the same time accepting that the situation is beyond your control? REBT psychotherapy would be something to look into if you could afford a short course.

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