The Ugly Friend

Hey

Chatting to the girl I flat share with and she went 'I really sorry for her, she gets no attention when we go out' about a friend of hers and I said she should just hook her up with someone to which she replied 'but she's like really ugly'.

Then we debating about the theory of 'the ugly friend'. I personally don't find any of my friends 'ugly' surely once you befriend someone you become less attentive to their physical flaws?

She said her and her freinds talk about how 'ugly' this girl is behind her back all the time however none of them can openly tell her that's the reason she get's no attention and they assure her she's pretty eventhough they don't think so.

I have friends who I know are amazingly stunning and some which are more average however because I know them I find them all gorgeous and appreciate things such as their smiles and when I see them I see their beauty.

She argues and objects to this.

What do you think?

I think it's even worse that when she asks them they say 'no babe your gorgeous' then bitch about her being ugly .....some 'friends'


Anyone ever been the 'ugly friend' or ever 'had one'?

My other flatmate reckons some girls like to keep an 'ugly' friend so they get all the attention?

Oh god, you're one of those people who comments on their fat, slutty friends photos on facebook telling them how 'gawjuzz' and 'xcy!!!!' they are, aren't you?

You predator !

A boy I know uses his baby brother to pull. Works every time!

I have no fat slutty friends so no Bob!

Hey

Chatting to the girl I flat share with and she went 'I really sorry for her, she gets no attention when we go out' about a friend of hers and I said she should just hook her up with someone to which she replied 'but she's like really ugly'.

Then we debating about the theory of 'the ugly friend'. I personally don't find any of my friends 'ugly' surely once you befriend someone you become less attentive to their physical flaws?

She said her and her freinds talk about how 'ugly' this girl is behind her back all the time however none of them can openly tell her that's the reason she get's no attention and they assure her she's pretty eventhough they don't think so.

I have friends who I know are amazingly stunning and some which are more average however because I know them I find them all gorgeous and appreciate things such as their smiles and when I see them I see their beauty.

She argues and objects to this.

What do you think?

I think it's even worse that when she asks them they say 'no babe your gorgeous' then bitch about her being ugly .....some 'friends'


Anyone ever been the 'ugly friend' or ever 'had one'?

My other flatmate reckons some girls like to keep an 'ugly' friend so they get all the attention?

What is this about people being "ugly".

Personally, I don't think anyone can be ugly, we all have some sort of beauty.

Especially, if you're someone's "friend" how can you say they're ugly???! :O

I agree.

What I've also noticed is... In my group of 7 closest friends (from home) the ones who were considered most attractive while we were in high school are now suddenly the ''ugly'' ones, and the ones that used to get no attention in school are now fighting guys off with a big stick.

Nope. It's psychological. The same way you couldn't find your mother ugly.

Wow, you clearly no nothing about psychology. whatsoever. So please don't come out with random incorrect facts. Especially regarding a topic such as this.

When we see someone, we can clearly see if they are ugly or pretty (of course there is a large are of average too). Whether or not we choose to acknowledge the fact that our ugly friends are ugly is totally down to individual. But the fact remains, that we all can tell if someone is attractive or not.

Just a question, do you suffer from learning difficulties? (If so, then I excuse what you say and sorry if I caused offence.)

I don't make friends with ugly people.. just kidding. Seriously though, there aren't that many truly ugly people around. Especially not friends. When you like someone's personality, you find them physically better looking as well don't you think?

This is hugely an aspect of youth I beleive, I say this because when people are under 25 mostly or even under 30 they are at their best looks wise.

So because of this they see the world in a sense of looks, however many people I have seen (I am 27 now) who think they are like models(male or female) put huge amounts of work into their looks and more and more the older they get as when it comes down to it, they arent that attractive, its all fake and their age plays a huge factor.

All to me that most "ugly" people are, are just people who arent fitting into a certain aspect of modern good looks that I described, i.e they could wear clothes that dont suit them, or have a hairstyle that doesnt compliment their face.

Put these people into plain clothes alongside the "pretty people" in plain clothes and hairstyles and no make up etc and they wouldnt really be much different.

think about that male hairstyle advert where the guy has to "break the mould" him with flat hair isnt seen as good as him with a fluffed up hairstyle.

I know nothing about psychology other than the fact I got an A in OCR A Level Psychology and mother is a Psychiatrist and I volunteer with Body & Soul.

My opinion. My thread.

I must have learning difficulties if something I say seems incorrect to you?



Bye.