We started off really well and had the most perfect relationship. On paper, he is the perfect guy. Beyond attractive, athletic, smart, fun, outgoing, has strong family values and the lot.
However I'm starting to question whether this guy is emotionally abusive, controlling and manipulative. For the last few months I've been finding myself constantly feeling like I have to ask whats wrong and figure out whats going on with us. I find myself having to watch everything I say so he doesnt get angry, he constantly points out things he wants me to change about myself, its one rule for him and another for me, and the worst part is he keeps breaking up with me and coming back..it started of once a month, to multiple times a day.
We've discussed our future together endlessly and had serious plans, recently I find myself thinking I have the most perfect boyfriend as he knows exactly what to say to make me smile, he'll tell me im the most beautiful girl and how he only has eyes for me, how he cant wait for our life to progress together, he will buy me flowers and take me to dinner, only to break up with me a few hours later and decide that he is done.
Tonight he did it again, because I mentioned I was going out clubbing with my friends. He says he doesnt trust me and that it is all over between us and I should just F**k off. I ended up finding myself apologising, saying I should have asked permission to go out if he doesnt trust me and I even said I wouldnt go out. (He was going to be out that same night with his friends) but he said it was too late and that I obviously didnt want to make things work.
We've had our issues like any relationship does, but made an agreement to fully commit to leaving it all behind and working on improving everything, however 10minutes after telling me I will be his wife, I was being dumped. Again.
I am so used to him breaking up with me but even then he'd never go as far as telling me to forget all these plans we made, telling to me f**k off, and just being so cold so I think it is all over this time. He used to always come back no matter how many times it was over for good, but he never behaved quite like this.
As crazy as it is, I am in love with him and when he's being nice it is the most perfect relationship and I know I could spend my life with him, but I'm starting to wonder if he's manipulating me or if it is all genuinely my fault and I deserve all this because I'm not trying hard enough to make him happy.