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Too ugly to get a girlfriend, don't know what to do, need advice.

He's a bouncer. He applies his fighting skills to his job. I thought women liked tough athletic guys who can protect them. I guess that was all horse$h!t then?

What's wrong with his personality exactly?

Nothing's wrong with his personality? I was saying that besides all hobbies etc it's more about personality anyway

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Anonymous #13

OP,

How do you approach? You say you don't approach after constant rejection.How many have to approached so far?

Maybe you could post a video on here so we can analyse and give you feedback.

Approaching females is the easiest way to meet and date them. It's easier than getting numbers from online dating in my experience. I'm sure other guys will agree with me.

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Anonymous #13

OP,

You're not ugly, everyone has established that.

Trust me, you could be wearing the best suit, clothes, have the best looks and hairstyle and females will STILL not make eye contact with you. Females hardly approach men anyway.

Project yourself well, behave in a confident manner, you don't need females to look at you. Don't be self-conscious of the way you look otherwise you'll project insecurities.

Go up to them and just talk to them, do it consistently and I'm sure you'll get something, don't quit after talking to 10, keep going.

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Tiger Rag

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Not all females (such as me) like to be approached. Especially when it's obvious you're just after a relationship. It's not quite so bad if you're just trying to make conversation. But it's clear when you're just after one thing.

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Lord_Mediocre

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Original post by Tiger Rag

Not all females (such as me) like to be approached. Especially when it's obvious you're just after a relationship. It's not quite so bad if you're just trying to make conversation. But it's clear when you're just after one thing.

So? You'll just turn him down, it won't be the first time someone's been turned down. It's really not a big deal.

Out of interest since you don't like to be approached, how does one extend the hand of romantic pursuit? Shouting at you as they walk further and further away?

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ANM775

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Original post by nluc88

I don't approach anymore cos of constant rejection. It has gotten to the point, where I just think, give up, you don't have it. Like I said before, a lot of women in London look very unapproachable.

main reasons why you are getting rejected imo is that your standards are too high.

You are a male who looks a lot like an east asian [with something else mixed in I can't put my finger on] and you are going mostly after beautiful white girls. You have an average face, however an above average body... although the amount of muscle you have is not going to be everyone's preference. Therefore it is hard to give you an accurate rating.

east asian men typically do not do well well with white girls, and you ain't going for the plain jane's or uggo's, you're going for the beautiful ones. so this is why I am saying you are setting your standards too high.

Due to white girls preferences most of them will dismiss you as a potential sexual partner before you even open your mouth. That is the sad truth i'm afraid, and the sad truth for other minorities too. I do not suggest any ethnic minority indiscriminately mass approach white girls unless he is at least an 8 in looks so he can bypass some of the discrimination a little. Even then that ethnic minority should not bank on getting a beautiful white girl, there's definitely no guarantees.

If you want to approach white girls do it at an anime meetup group or something where the white girls there will likely be open to asian guys because of their interests.

or locate some east asain nightclubs in london and hit on the few white girls that turn up there.

Also lower your standards as well. For the greatest chance of success approach girls who are physically on your level and below or a maximum of 0.5 points above you.

If you do all this then it's not unreasonable to expect a white girlfriend

you mentioned you are not into east asain girls. what about south asian girls?
honestly, any other ethnicity you'd probably have a better chance of getting a girl than a white girl.

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Tiger Rag

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Original post by The_Mediocre_One

So? You'll just turn him down, it won't be the first time someone's been turned down. It's really not a big deal.

Out of interest since you don't like to be approached, how does one extend the hand of romantic pursuit? Shouting at you as they walk further and further away?

Here's an idea - don't do it and maybe realise not everyone wishes to be approached.

It's creepy.

It makes you look quite desperate.

(edited 6 years ago)

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ANM775

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Original post by Tiger Rag

Here's an idea - don't do it and maybe realise not everyone wishes to be approached.

It's creepy.

what if you're at a bar or a club?

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Lord_Mediocre

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Original post by Tiger Rag

Here's an idea - don't do it and maybe realise not everyone wishes to be approached.

It's creepy.

It makes you look quite desperate.

Oh sure it's creepy if you're a normal guy but if it's Ryan Gosling then "omg he's so cute can't believe he came and spoke to me...."

There's nothing desperate about approaching and speaking to other people, if you're not interested just ask them to leave you alone.

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Tiger Rag

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Original post by The_Mediocre_One

Oh sure it's creepy if you're a normal guy but if it's Ryan Gosling then "omg he's so cute can't believe he came and spoke to me...."

There's nothing desperate about approaching and speaking to other people, if you're not interested just ask them to leave you alone.

But not everyone wants to be approached. Especially if they're just walking and minding their own business. Tell me, why is it ok to just go up to some random person in the street and just ask them out?

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BefuddledPenguin

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This is coming from a bisexual guy so take it for what it is. Personally I think the muscles are what's putting people off. You look terrifying and being in a relationship with you would just be sitting at home, waiting for you to come home from the gym. Every girl I know has told me that your level of muscle mass is too extreme. Girls in general prefer slimmer guys not muscle beasts. Slightly larger girls might go for you but if I had your body, I'd be doing nothing but cutting.

Of course if you're doing it for MMA purposes you're kinda stuck, so just try to get with different types of girls.

Everything I've told you is entirely anecdotal of course, others will have different experiences.

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Anonymous #12

Sadly, these beautiful white women will not give East Asian looking men a look in, Unless you are very good looking. Its a known fact how Asian, Indian men struggle. They may give you a look in if you are good looking.

You get constantly rejected approaching women because your standards are too high, you're going for the wrong type of women.

Btw my friend is Indian, although 2 years younger than you and he had a group of pretty white females say he's very nice looking(from a couple of metres away) a couple of months ago and he went up to them and chatted them up. Even when he was younger he's had white females say he's very cute at the shopping centre. He is very good looking fortunately.

If you have never had this happen to you then I doubt you can be with a beautiful white female and you're going onto 29.

You keep complaining it's your looks but it's your standards not looks.

Before you get angry with me I'm reinstating what @anm775 has written.

Reply 832

Anonymous #13

OP,

Maybe you can form acquaintances and make more social contacts and who knows, you may be introduced or a female may be interested in getting to know you from this?

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nluc88

OP

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Original post by Anonymous

Sadly, these beautiful white women will not give East Asian looking men a look in, Unless you are very good looking. Its a known fact how Asian, Indian men struggle. They may give you a look in if you are good looking.

You get constantly rejected approaching women because your standards are too high, you're going for the wrong type of women.

Btw my friend is Indian, although 2 years younger than you and he had a group of pretty white females say he's very nice looking(from a couple of metres away) a couple of months ago and he went up to them and chatted them up. Even when he was younger he's had white females say he's very cute at the shopping centre. He is very good looking fortunately.

If you have never had this happen to you then I doubt you can be with a beautiful white female and you're going onto 29.

You keep complaining it's your looks but it's your standards not looks.

Before you get angry with me I'm reinstating what @anm775 has written.

What type of women should u I go for??

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Anonymous #12

Look if you want these beautiful English ladies, you have to consistently approach, approach, approach. You have approached, had no success however from reading an earlier post I don't think you approach consistently.

I still think you should be going for women based on your own culture and ethnicity. You can get a beautiful women from your own. I say this that your chances will increase.

Or go to Thailand, Phillipinnes, east Europe and meet beautiful women there, many do anyway and I'm sure you'll land a couple to chose from!

Or even join those Thai, east Europe dating sites.

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ANM775

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@Judge Jules

a guy who I previously mentioned who almost stole a girl away from me at a socialising event is on BBC2 right now on some gameshow lol

he might win a lot of money, you should hit him up for a date lol.........

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username1726117

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Time to step up my advice game; this thread is first page on Google for "too ugly to get a girlfriend".

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tapir

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Original post by Tiger Rag

But not everyone wants to be approached. Especially if they're just walking and minding their own business. Tell me, why is it ok to just go up to some random person in the street and just ask them out?