Should I stop being friends with my vegan-feminist friend?

How is not liking a feminist friend believing women are not equal to men

Dont know if this is a dumb comment but do you not believe that women are equal to men?

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My general rule is that I respect people's decisions so long as they're not hurting anyone. But in return, they should respect mine (i.e. not to be vegan) and not try to "convert" me. Not all vegans are like that, but I have told two people I no longer wanted to be friends because as soon as they turned vegan - both suddenly - they started treating me like a lesser being, which I didn't think was fair.

I believe in equality for men and women, but when do you ever see feminists addressing male suicide and the PTSD men face when they return from Iraq/Afghanistan? Why are women's misfortunes more important than men's and who decided that? No one but a bunch of dropout kids who had nowhere to belong. I knew there was gonna be a dumb comment.

Sorry, didn’t mean it to come across in a condescending way I was just genuinely curious as I’d ever really thought about other reasons people might not be feminists! Thanks for the explanation though, appreciate the perspective and I’ll try and phrase it better next time

As a vegetarian myself, you should leave her

I believe in equality for men and women, but when do you ever see feminists addressing male suicide and the PTSD men face when they return from Iraq/Afghanistan? Why are women's misfortunes more important than men's and who decided that?

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It sounds like you fundamentally disagree with this person on issues that are important to you. Usually, this would be fine as not everyone has the same opinion. However, you mention she is 'pushing her ideals' onto you and 'takes it personally' when you spend time with other friends. This is not healthy and is burdonsome for you. So, why put effort into a friendship that you get nothing out of?

Seriously. She has been my friend since we were toddlers, but she has changed completely over the last few years. She is a hardcore feminist and when I say hardcore - I actually mean she is willing to take off her shirt and show off her boobs in one of the most pointless marches ever.

She knows I am not a feminist yet keeps advocating their crap policies to me (I am a girl). She cut off her hair - dyed them blue/pink, wears nose rings and goth makeup. She swears a lot and I can't even get a hello without a swear word laced in it. "**** yeah, hello *****, where you been?" is what I get nowadays.

She is also a vegan. Not that I care, but every time I want to drop by at Nandos, she'd rather go to Mildred's whatever the hell that is. Still, I cooperate and go with her and go with my other friends to Nandos when she isn't around, because she wouldn't be within a 40 mile radius to a ****ing meat serving restaurant. Problem is that she takes it personally when I would choose to be with another friend rather than with her. Seriously, sick of this nonsense.

It's becoming difficult to even find a glimpse of the person I was friends with before this feminist/vegan change occurred. She's constantly pushing her ideals on to me and I feel sad when she makes terrible comments about men as I have a dad, brother and a boyfriend and multiple male friends who are decent men. I take offence to her man-bashing personally.

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No dumb comments. I am not a feminist or a vegan and I don't hate either. Neither am I going to defend my position here. In a simple sentence, their ideals do not sing a song in my heart. Bye.

I don't think you should force yourself to be friends with someone if you don't genuinely enjoy spending time with them. At the end of the day, as we grow older we develop different interests and depart from people we used to be close with.



I wouldn't call my self a feminist but i always found this kind of argument kind of funny. To me, it's like criticising Dogs Trust for not focusing on cats or Cancer Research for not researching Ebola.

No problem. Can I ask if you are a feminist? I appreciate reasonable minded individuals who are also feminists. I have hope there are some out there.

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