I’ve recently come out of a relatively long term relationship and so I’m back on the dating scene. I’ve been in relationships since leaving school at 16 and now being 20 I don’t really know where to start when it comes to dating.
I know that I’m a little bit on the thicker side and I’m trying to lose that weight, but I only seem to attract guys that aren’t really my type. I know it’s not about how someone looks, but in the past I’ve always ended up with guys that aren’t my type and in the end it’s ended because of the lack of attraction (I know it’s my fault for putting myself in that situation). Even my parents sat me down for an intervention about not settling for guys and that I deserve better.
I feel that it’s not quite as simple as that though. I don’t really get approached in clubs, but I’m never in other situations to meet guys. There’s a decent guy in my flat that I enjoy spending time with, but he doesn’t seem the least bit interested. Plus I know it would make things messy to date someone you’re living with in case something went wrong. I’ve tried dating apps, but they make me feel uncomfortable since you never actually know if who you’re speaking to is who they say they are.
I’m just at a bit of a loss. I know that I’ll find someone at some point and I’m told that I shouldn’t try to force it, but I don’t know how I’m supposed to even go about meeting new guys that are actually my type and how to approach them if I do.