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    Try watching porn and viewing erotic images to see whether they arouse you. If you find something that does, try masturbating. Also, buy some sex toys and see what happens. All this should tell you whether you're sexual or asexual, straight or gay, and whether your clitoris works in the usual way.

    If you're sexual and straight (or bi) you should then consider whether your fiancé turns you on. If he doesn't, are you happy to have an asexual relationship with him? If he does, maybe have him focus on giving you erotic massages, going down on you etc - everything other than vaginal sex - so you have an enjoyable sexual relationship with him. Most girls don't climax from vaginal sex, so maybe don't do it, or have it as just one of the things the two of you do together.

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically as it says in the title, I frequently do not feel anything during sex. I do not mean that I am numb and have no sense of touch but I very rarely, and if I do, only fleetingly feel any sensation and it has literally never built up to anything that I would label pleasurable. I am in my twenties, have been sexually active for two years, and am engaged. I am not into touching myself and just can't get myself to do that. The one time I did try nothing really happened either. I have not had experience with any men other than my fiancé and would say that I am sexually immature and find talking about sex not very easy. I like the close aspect of sex but that is about as far as it goes. I hear girls going on about how they could not live without sex and how wonderful it is and I just feel like I am missing out. I would like to have a pleasurable experience like everyone else. I am not asking for sex tips or anything, I just want to know if anyone has had this well and whether anything made things change for them.
    I used to hate sex but crave it anyway and I didn't get why because I was like why am I so horny it's not like I'm going to enjoy sex anyway, it used to hurt and that was it, it took me nearly a year to enjoy sex with my current partner but now I do really like it, does it hurt for you? is that why you don't enjoy it?
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