Over 2 year relationship and things are looking bad.

It'll happen I'm afraid, she's moving to/plugging through university (stage ambiguous), she's looking ahead to a new stage of her life and her subconscious has already decided you're not gonna be in it. It's standard not to have sex after a couple of years. I wouldn't say the cheating is remotely relevant, people get in way too much of a tizzy about that. She probably is receiving some sort of non-physical sexual thrill from her male friends by leading them on, which is pretty much fair enough, we all enjoy the chase. I also certainly wouldn't guess she's saying hurtful things deliberately so it's up to you to confront her a bit. I'm sure you can do so like adults. If it was me I'd get it over with sooner rather than later so you two will have recovered a bit by the time she (and you?) go (back) to university.

Ouch, poor you, you don't sound happy at all.

If she's cheated on you it doesn't sound like you're going to get the trust and happiness back very soon. She doesn't seem to want to be tied down in a relationship atm but you do because you love her. Does she realise what she's doing to you? Let her know because she may not be fully aware of how she's making you feel.

In my opinion it sounds like it needs to be YOU making your mind up, not her. From what you've told us you've done nothing wrong but she definitely has. Do you really want to carry on getting hurt? It doesn't sound like you feel she's worth it anymore.

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Talk to her. Sorry to hear that she is saying things like that, but its unfair of her to keep you on edge like that so seriously talk to her and ask her what she wants. If you don't you will just keep feeling this crap and wondering whats going on in her head.

Hope you feel better soon

Ive been with my girlfriend for 2 years and 3 months and 1 day exactly and i honestly love her, and she says she loves me too. but she also recently came out with that she has lost her spark for me, and we havent been having sex much at all and she is hardly ever in the mood anymore.
also she has 5 males friends, who are obsessed with her and i have to hear about them all of the time, I cant help but feel jealous and she can't understand that she shouldnt have male best friends when you are in a close relationship.

You've basically explained most of my fears. But yes it's honest.
We were on the phone two hours ago, and i was getting sick of hearing "i dont know", so i said " i love you hannah, but this hurts, so im going to hang up and im not going to talk to you unless you call back and are clear on what you want." she called back within 15 minutes, saying the same old stuff, so i hung up and texted her explaining why. she still hasnt called. i cant sleep.

Ive been with my girlfriend for 2 years and 3 months and 1 day exactly and i honestly love her, and she says she loves me too. but she also recently came out with that she has lost her spark for me and we havent been having sex much at all and she is hardly ever in the mood anymore.

she has 5 males friends, who are obsessed with her and i have to hear about them all of the time, I cant help but feel jealous and she can't understand that she shouldnt have male best friends when you are in a close relationship.

exam stress and university pressure.

she went to a part last night, and didnt want me to come because i dont get on with her friends and she doesnt want it to be awkward and for me to ruin the party. she's wonderful at hurting me these days. That just makes me think she doesnt want me there so she can **** about and do whatever she likes.

also one reason im so insecure about it is that early in our relationship she cheated on me, but cried her eyes out over it, and made up for it and earnt my trust again, but i guess not completely.

i really love her and cant bear it without her, but this it all too much, i feel like she's suddenly become afraid of commitment. should i just end it and stop waiting for her to reach a decision. or maybe threaten it, so she stop ****ing me about. my brother says it's obvious im unhappy and i need to do something. sorry for rambling and not being straight to the point.

Im ending it. today, so that sucks. but it's probably best. thanks everyone.

I do ask he what she wants. she says im the most attentive and caring person she knows, and i always make my best possible effort for her. But she can't explain properly what's wrong or what she wants, It's driving me mad.