Promiscuous friend keeps being too needy, offering me sex etc

I have a female friend that I consider to be my best friend. I met her in university halls living with her. Quite often she will have a man in her room, most likely someone she doesn't now. Fair enough sleep with who you want but when I asked about her past sex life how many men she had slept she told me it's over 50 and that she was raped when she was a young teen. I'm the only person she's ever told so I can tell she trusts me a lot.

She has asked me to have sex with her quite a few times, she's never turned her down. When she asked I said I want to prove to her that men can be good friends not just sex objects. I think she's used to it she lets herself be controlled by men otherwise she feels like she isn't good enough. This is why I haven't because in a way I want to look after her. She dresses quite revealing, her dress sense and her sleeping around does put me off but I'll be friends with anyone if they're nice decent person.

I've finished university back in September so I've moved on to work. She still contacts me, keeps being very needy saying stuff like I'm the only man she wants to be with when I turn her down she offers me sex so she hasn't really changed. I still carry on giving advice but it's like she hasn't got her own mind.

I makes me feel bad for her because a part of me thinks I should go out with her because I know shell be safe but am I attracted to her? well only because she's a nice girl and good looking. It just makes very awkward for me as what I should do. I would love some advice how to handle the situation what I should do?

Over 50? Lovely.

Don't go out with her if that is your reason. There should be a benefit to you as well, and you should honestly like her.

Also consider the risks of being with someone like her. Unless you are promiscuous yourself, you may get jealous later on, or she may cheat on you.

And if you're the type of guy who cares about pride, then being with someone like her isn't really going to work.

So best to just be a friend. I would recommend you ask her to see a therapist (lol) or something for her previous experiences as that might help her change. It's good of you to not have used her as well, although it might be the other way around.

Has she sought professional help for her past? It sounds like she needs some issues she really needs to work through with someone, you're doing the right thing by not taking advantage of her but I think she needs you to help her get the guidance she needs.

she was raped when she was a young teen. I'm the only person she's ever told so I can tell she trusts me a lot.

No not that im aware of. I'm the only friend that she speaks openly to. I could easily taken advantage but I care about her enough to stop myself from going there. It's hard guiding her because she gets attached to me too easily.

And you've just posted this on a public forum..

He's an anonymous talking about a stranger. Hardly a press report about Barry the next door neighbour who shags the sheep down the road.

mods can see the username.

It just had no relevance to the discussion to be honest.

Over 50? Lovely.

I know you didn't mean anything by it, but you really shouldn't judge. Victims of rape often struggle with their sexuality afterwards with many becoming hypersexual. It just shows that she's not coping as she should be. She needs empathy and support, and to most definitely see someone about her rape if she isn't already. Her behaviour is only going to make things worse unfortunately OP.

She's broken, I doubt you'll fix her, this is a very deep issue.