I never feel excited when I'm in a relationship

I never look forward to hanging out, I never miss them. I've never felt that excitement the other feels when we're about to hang out. Basically I'm never trulely happy or feel that passion. I haven't seen my bf in two weeks and I've been so ok with that. I'm content him on the other hand isn't liking it which is very understandable, but I feel no urge. Like he says it's always him making all the effort and if it wasn't for him there would be no relationship.

It always take me losing someone to actually care about anything but then idk if it's just me missing the attention.


I'm NEVER into my relationships I'm always so content with being single.

Is anyone like this?

Make that the 2 of us

that's awesome. Some people feel needy and love to be in relationships but for me it's like a job.

I hate sharing beds. Whenever I end up sleeping on the sofa my bf gets upset. I need my own space like what's the big deal and it doesn't help that his cat thinks she's a princess and sleeps right in my face even when I nudge her, she doesn't care and doesn't move. I was like this with my ex- I just need my own space!!!!! My own life. I always have to check in, what I'm doing. Make a phone call before bed say goodnight. It's easy stuff but I don't feel the urge to give or even receive, I have zero expections for the guy either. I get awesome guys, attentive, loving, I'm sure every girl would appreciate a goodnight and good morning text- but for me it doesn't do anything. And omg if I don't do this same from time to time it's a problem.

I know I'm special I don't depend on someone else to make me feel that way. I told that to my bf and he said it's just to show the other person you're thinking about them. And then I feel like an *******. I'm so lost.


I do not know what I'm doing. I don't know how to be a good gf.

lmao, same but on the guy side.. would literally tell my gf goodnight at 6pm so I can go play games.. and I just cba to put effort sometimes when it's meaningless

I never look forward to hanging out, I never miss them. I've never felt that excitement the other feels when we're about to hang out. Basically I'm never trulely happy or feel that passion. I haven't seen my bf in two weeks and I've been so ok with that. I'm content him on the other hand isn't liking it which is very understandable, but I feel no urge. Like he says it's always him making all the effort and if it wasn't for him there would be no relationship.

It always take me losing someone to actually care about anything but then idk if it's just me missing the attention.


I'm NEVER into my relationships I'm always so content with being single.

Is anyone like this?

I can totally relate to this. My girlfriends have all complained that I seem not to think about them when they're not there, and my lack of texting etc always emotionally affects them more than it would do me if the situation were reversed. I'm happy having someone I can count on when I need them, and I value the sex and the friendship, but I also like doing things by myself and I don't need constant reassurance that I'm cared about. I also, like you, hate sharing a bed.

It's a shame because I do care about them, and I don't want to upset them, but I don't want to have a level of responsibility for their emotions that they don't have for mine. Not sure if I'm in the exact same situation as you but it sounds like the effect on the SO is quite similar.

And I feel the same with regards to breakups. I miss people a lot more when either I have a crush on them or when I've lost them.

I never look forward to hanging out, I never miss them. I've never felt that excitement the other feels when we're about to hang out. Basically I'm never trulely happy or feel that passion. I haven't seen my bf in two weeks and I've been so ok with that. I'm content him on the other hand isn't liking it which is very understandable, but I feel no urge. Like he says it's always him making all the effort and if it wasn't for him there would be no relationship.

It always take me losing someone to actually care about anything but then idk if it's just me missing the attention.


I'm NEVER into my relationships I'm always so content with being single.

Is anyone like this?

Maybe you're a lesbian and need try girls instead?

I never look forward to hanging out, I never miss them. I've never felt that excitement the other feels when we're about to hang out. Basically I'm never trulely happy or feel that passion. I haven't seen my bf in two weeks and I've been so ok with that. I'm content him on the other hand isn't liking it which is very understandable, but I feel no urge. Like he says it's always him making all the effort and if it wasn't for him there would be no relationship.

It always take me losing someone to actually care about anything but then idk if it's just me missing the attention.


I'm NEVER into my relationships I'm always so content with being single.

Is anyone like this?

I never look forward to hanging out, I never miss them. I've never felt that excitement the other feels when we're about to hang out. Basically I'm never trulely happy or feel that passion. I haven't seen my bf in two weeks and I've been so ok with that. I'm content him on the other hand isn't liking it which is very understandable, but I feel no urge. Like he says it's always him making all the effort and if it wasn't for him there would be no relationship.

It always take me losing someone to actually care about anything but then idk if it's just me missing the attention.


I'm NEVER into my relationships I'm always so content with being single.

Is anyone like this?

Yes, but just a sign of not the right person imo.
Calmed down over the weight thing? perhaps not being near him helps you from geting stressed about that?

My weight thing not really, yesterday I was feeling normal and then today it got to me again.
No as I said before I've always been like this in all my relationships, so it's not the stress of that.

I did say the best solution imo was just to get on with it for the next 3-4 months.

As for the other honestly think its because you just havent met the right one who ticks all your boxes. Do you feel you have had any really good bfs?

Yea they pretty much do what I need and go over and beyond, they put effort more than me.

Not the same.v Either you are emotionally dead or you just havent met the right person who you can connect with.