How often do you speak to your mum when you're at uni?
I'm in my second year of uni and have just moved into my student house with 2 others on my course.
I'm very sensitive by nature and very close to my family, my mum in particular. I was just wondering how much university students tend to speak to their mum (or dad) on the phone as I do a number of times a day. I'm quite different from the "typical" university student in that I don't go out drinking much and go home every weekend.
I feel like I'm living uni life wrong and that I shouldn't be speaking to my mum every day because uni is about growing up and living your own life, but I get upset and feel guilty if I don't. I suffer from anxiety and have suffered from depression in the past so I feel like I have to have constant attention from my mum and like to tell her how I'm feeling and what I've been doing.
I'm just interested to know what other students (in any year) are like with communication with their parents.
Thanks
L
I'm very sensitive by nature and very close to my family, my mum in particular. I was just wondering how much university students tend to speak to their mum (or dad) on the phone as I do a number of times a day. I'm quite different from the "typical" university student in that I don't go out drinking much and go home every weekend.
I feel like I'm living uni life wrong and that I shouldn't be speaking to my mum every day because uni is about growing up and living your own life, but I get upset and feel guilty if I don't. I suffer from anxiety and have suffered from depression in the past so I feel like I have to have constant attention from my mum and like to tell her how I'm feeling and what I've been doing.
I'm just interested to know what other students (in any year) are like with communication with their parents.
Thanks
L
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We send a few texts during the day, usually everyday.
I Skype my parents once a week and send a few random texts during the week. Usually text my mum about amusing anecdotes and my dad if I want to complain about something 
Wow, you all keep in contact so much.
I have around 1 awkward conversation per week, supplemented by up to 1 awkward email.
I have around 1 awkward conversation per week, supplemented by up to 1 awkward email.
I'm lucky if I can get her to get in contact once a fortnight... not that I'm particularly happy with that. I speak to the rest of my family once or twice a week (per person; small family) though.
Well i don't live in a different city but i don't live at home.. I normally text/phone my parents at some point everyday,i facetime them sometimes. I usually send my mum silly things like pictures of cakes i've baked or a nice dinner i've made 
and probably see them 3 times a week.
I just love my family more than anything and i love speaking to them and seeing them
and probably see them 3 times a week. I just love my family more than anything and i love speaking to them and seeing them
Original post by deedee123
Well i don't live in a different city but i don't live at home.. I normally text/phone my parents at some point everyday,i facetime them sometimes. I usually send my mum silly things like pictures of cakes i've baked or a nice dinner i've made and probably see them 3 times a week.
I just love my family more than anything and i love speaking to them and seeing them
and probably see them 3 times a week. I just love my family more than anything and i love speaking to them and seeing them
occasionally i do get sent a random lolcat pic by my sisters
ALWAYS cheers me up 
Been at Uni for 9 days now and called my Mum 3 times.
I send emails every other day, but only called home twice in the past 3 weeks. My parents took me out for dinner tonight though which was nice
Thanks for all your replies!
What I don't understand is (not judging here at ALL) how some of you guys and loads of people at my uni can go a week or even a few days without speaking to their parents when you've spent pretty much every day of your life with them so far. How do you do that? Like do you not feel guilty that they're probably missing you and hoping that you'll call?
L
What I don't understand is (not judging here at ALL) how some of you guys and loads of people at my uni can go a week or even a few days without speaking to their parents when you've spent pretty much every day of your life with them so far. How do you do that? Like do you not feel guilty that they're probably missing you and hoping that you'll call?
L
Original post by love.the.efron
Thanks for all your replies!
What I don't understand is (not judging here at ALL) how some of you guys and loads of people at my uni can go a week or even a few days without speaking to their parents when you've spent pretty much every day of your life with them so far. How do you do that? Like do you not feel guilty that they're probably missing you and hoping that you'll call?
L
What I don't understand is (not judging here at ALL) how some of you guys and loads of people at my uni can go a week or even a few days without speaking to their parents when you've spent pretty much every day of your life with them so far. How do you do that? Like do you not feel guilty that they're probably missing you and hoping that you'll call?
L
I dreaded leaving my parents behind. And my first 3 days here were completely isolating and i was almost to the point of tears
Then 1 conversation with my dad changed all that.
He then took me to pizza hut , which might seem lame but that brings back so many memories and he knew that would.
What he said to me , is the reason why i coped and im settling in.
Depends whether or not I'm cooking something interesting and need help
Original post by love.the.efron
Thanks for all your replies!
What I don't understand is (not judging here at ALL) how some of you guys and loads of people at my uni can go a week or even a few days without speaking to their parents when you've spent pretty much every day of your life with them so far. How do you do that? Like do you not feel guilty that they're probably missing you and hoping that you'll call?
L
What I don't understand is (not judging here at ALL) how some of you guys and loads of people at my uni can go a week or even a few days without speaking to their parents when you've spent pretty much every day of your life with them so far. How do you do that? Like do you not feel guilty that they're probably missing you and hoping that you'll call?
L
It didn't always used to be like that for me - I'm in my third year now and left home in March 2011, and you do find that over time you need your parents less, uni feels more like home and your friends are your primary support network, with parents there for major crises and nice chit chats! It's a gradual process though and no one becomes instantaneously emotionally independent.
To be honest, I think not seeing my family in person for six months straight after I left home (I was travelling, so there was no choice, you just have to get on with it!), and having divorced parents (so I was used to not seeing any given parent every day) helped too.
As for them missing me, they're always free to ring me if they want
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I probably talk to my mum and dad once every two weeks or so, depending on if I need something or not. I am much better at calling my parents than I used to be though, in the past it was pretty normal for me to not talk to my parents for 5 or 6 weeks at a time.
I don't really understand why some people phone home as much as they do though, if it was me / my parents I think we'd run out of things to say pretty quickly, I mean life isn't really that interesting so...
I don't really understand why some people phone home as much as they do though, if it was me / my parents I think we'd run out of things to say pretty quickly, I mean life isn't really that interesting so...
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