My mom had held how my dad died for years a secret until a little over a year ago when I was 19 going on 20 he had died 20 years before. I thought when she told me the reason she had held it a secret was because she knew he had died from someone, a man, he was having an encounter with or whatever and for some reason didn't want to admit it. my mom and he weren't together at the time. Anyhow last week she was talking to her sister because her sister had spoken to my cousin on my dad's side about speculations that my dad was murdered and robbed by his cousin. My mom said something about it and gives her own opinion on the matter. She says she thinks her nephew's fate will be the same, insinuating it was due to a death bar related. im confused because I thought everyone knew and from what I heard it was quite obvious. He died in a closet so the message was pretty clear to me. When I point this out I thought that it was common knowledge but apparently she tells me that she only knew about this detail because somebody at the funeral said some inappropriate stuff about his death and that none of her family knew about this. Anyhow I thought it was common knowledge. But I think it just mentally damaged her when I explained how it seemed obvious how he died. Because she honestly seemed to be happy not knowing but I didn't know she didn't put all the obvious information known together. Now she won't stop talking about it. And keeps ranting about how she hates men in general. And seems upset at herself for being attracted to someone who may have been bi or homosexual. I mean it's been about 3 days now and that was almost 22 years ago. She's been getting drunk all weekend and can't seem to cope that well... I've never seen her like this before. I didn't think it was a big deal. she really has been negative and it's like I negatively impacted my mom, but I don't really know how to make matters better for her. Advice? I wish I could take back what I said. It wasn't that big of a deal to me. What can I do to make matters better?