Would it be creepy to email her university?

And yet you haven't been able to contact her on Skype. If I was trying to disappear, I'd just open a new Skype account under a different name and not access the old one any more.

I haven't tried to contact her on Skype. What would I say if I did? Something like 'hello, erm, you didn't give me your new number'?

If you're desperate enough to try contacting her uni to get her details, why on earth wouldn't you have tried Skype first?

I'm clearly not, since I didn't do it; I made this thread instead. I haven't tried Skype because I don't want to appear 'desperate' and thus lose my frame. I figured that it might be possible to anonymously contact her university and acquire the wanted information without her knowing.

That isn't desperate? Also, asking the internet about it??

I'm clearly not, since I didn't do it; I made this thread instead. I haven't tried Skype because I don't want to appear 'desperate' and thus lose my frame. I figured that it might be possible to anonymously contact her university and acquire the wanted information without her knowing.

What's to stop you just visiting the university? Most uni's you can just walk into into the daytime and no one knows who you are. Just find out the block where her subject is taught and surprise! right in the middle of her lecture. She'll no doubt be overjoyed that her long lost online friend managed to track her down

Lose my frame? What?

When you are at this stage you are beyond the point of desperate.

Okay, perhaps I am desperate. But the fact is that I don't want to appear desperate. So instead of ridiculing me, how about you actually try to help me?

I've already told you that you are at a point beyond desperation

you have already appeared desperate once you are in the creepy stalker zone you are way beyond that point.

Just move on, you'll forget about her eventually. Some people just cut you off out of nowhere.

There's a girl that I've been messaging online for quite a substantial amount of time, however she seems to have suddenly just disappeared from the face of the planet. I know which university she goes to; what she studies and which year she's in. Would it be creepy to send a email to her university to ask if she's an actual student there, which may confirm if I've been catfished or not?

not exactly hard to suss out a catfish, just ask her to FaceTime and if she says no after you've been speaking a significant amount of time then, you no the answer

Um if I talked to someone REGULARLY for 2 years and they just suddenly disappeared then I wouldn't hesitate to contact anyone who could give me some information.

But the fact that your not sure if your being catfished gives me the impression that you don't know her very well, so in that case, yes it may be creepy.

If she wants to talk to you again, she'll reach out to you when she can and explain why she wasn't in contact with you. Until then you should just accept that she won't be talking to you for quite some time now, maybe never again.

But it feels like I wasted so much time on her.

Then I would suggest that you learn from this experience, and in future perhaps approach your seduction endgame with slightly greater urgency than a tectonic plate migration, or the entire plot-arc of Lost.