boyfriend barely speaks to me :/

I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, we never argue and we always speak politely and affectionately to each other. We Skype daily or every other day or so for an hour (I don't even ask to, he asks to Skype). However, he's never been a texter, and he just doesn't text me unless I text first, if I don't we'll just go the entire day without talking. He's not even asking to Skype anymore. I feel disconnected and like he's losing interest. I know he's busy with exam revision, but so am I, we're both doing 7-8 hours of revision per day but I still make time for him.

If I ask him, then he genuinely doesn't understand what the issue is and how I could even doubt his feelings, he says I'm getting frustrated over something very 'minor'. I feel like we barely even talk and then I end up being the same as in barely talking to him too, which makes my situation worse. I don't know what to do.

I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, we never argue and we always speak politely and affectionately to each other. We Skype daily or every other day or so for an hour (I don't even ask to, he asks to Skype). However, he's never been a texter, and he just doesn't text me unless I text first, if I don't we'll just go the entire day without talking. He's not even asking to Skype anymore. I feel disconnected and like he's losing interest. I know he's busy with exam revision, but so am I, we're both doing 7-8 hours of revision per day but I still make time for him.

If I ask him, then he genuinely doesn't understand what the issue is and how I could even doubt his feelings, he says I'm getting frustrated over something very 'minor'. I feel like we barely even talk and then I end up being the same as in barely talking to him too, which makes my situation worse. I don't know what to do.

Stop initiating, see if he bothers then

Comes a time where you can only take so much, thing may now is the time to cut your losses and finish it with him, to me he doesn't sound like he is bothered.

this is what I think too, I feel like he simply doesn't think about me, or wonder what I'm doing like I do with him. Yet, whenever we speak, he'll go on and on about how much he missed me, and will just gaze at me for ages and say I love you about 5 times making me think he is very interested. I even say things like 'well if you missed me that much.. why didn't you just text' and he doesn't even know what to say. Maybe in past relationships, he only spoke to his girlfriend twice a week or something, I don't know but with my ex we'd at least try to keep in touch once a day whether it be by text, call, Skype, anything!

How long relationship/ have you met? What do you plan to do after Uni? It could simply be stress and they are a lot of effort to keep going. Some people hate text. You have to be a bit flexible, I would just get on with your own stuff for a while. If he loses interest then he loses interest. Chill a bit and try not to fret.

Lack of effort is a turn off for sure, it plays on your mind and weighs you down. It is not good for your health either, you could try and see if he does contact you without you contacting him first but it don't sound like he will change sadly.

we've been together for 6 months now. After uni, I'm going to hopefully look for a job in my field. I think he overworks to be honest, even when his exams are 2 months away, he's sat revising 8 hours everyday. Yesterday, when we skyped, he spoke to me half the time, and half the time he was just writing away, which I thought was kind of hypocritical considering he flat out told me he doesn't like when I focus on things like YouTube and not him during the video call. I've been getting on with my own things, I've been revising for 7-8 hours daily, but I do still check my phone every now and then hoping to get even a text, but nothing, and I just feel really disappointed and neglected. At this rate, even if he hasn't lost interest, I will.

Reminds me of my first and only relationship tbh. My ex-girlfriend didn't put in the effort - i was initiating conversation, sending cute messages and all that romantic shizz.. in the end, I felt as though it was just me so I ended it.

Relationships work both ways. If the other person isn't putting the same if not more effort into your relationship then you should talk to them about it and if it doesn't improve, end it.

Yea.

You talk to them politely about it, nothing changes.

So you start *****ing about it,nothing Changes.

Then you make yourself go nuts trying, they cal you crazy.

You're not getting what you want out of a relationship get out before you fall deeper and it becomes harder.

Lack of effort speaks volumes don't ignore it.

exactly. Last time he went 3 full days without talking, at which point I snapped and got sick of him not speaking, so I caved in and talked to him first. He could tell he'd made me mad by not speaking to me, and I told him that when he doesn't speak to me for ages, I do miss him a lot and end up feeling like he simply doesn't want to speak to me for some reason. He said that was silly, and that he always wants to speak to me and he missed me too, and apologised a lot.

His words make no sense, how can he go on about missing me when he can't even pick up his phone to even call or text, you know? He knows full well I don't like it, yet he's done it again. It's hard to leave him because he is everything I've wanted in a guy and I look up to him in ways and admire him, but his communication is ****.

Idk what kind of relationship goes on three days without speaking in 2017.

That's not cool. Welcome to the world of relationships, no one knows how to do em.

I know it's ridiculous, I knew it wasn't normal. I just justified it to myself by saying okay maybe in past relationships, they spoke very little and he's picked up this habit. I directly asked him once how often a week he prefers we speak, he replied 'everyday, what do you think?', the things he says are the opposite of his actions

Actions speak louder than words.

Keep ur options open.

He's not into it, when a guy wants you you'll have no doubts.