Guy Who Likes Me Abused His Ex Girlfriend...

There is also another thing you have to remember though, these are things that you have been told from other people. I arent saying they're false but there can always be either two sides to a story or exageration of things.

Obviously you do whats best for youself, but also make sure youre thinking for yourself too. People can be wrong.

you should take boxing lessons just in case, hit that mf right where his legs meet

you should take boxing lessons just in case, hit that mf right where his legs meet

omg im dying!!!!!!

Im not even going to be friends with him after finding this out, he's a big guy tbh and it scares me to find out.

He did also act like a child over me not wishing him happy Valentines, it was sooo weird b/c he didn't text it me either? Like he legit didnt talk to me for weeks straight

you should take boxing lessons just in case, hit that mf right where his legs meet

Tell em to get bent

You aren't going to a good boxing class if that's what they're teaching you

I know its so weird! Like he is sensitive, but wtf? I think lots of other girls suck up to him cuz he's good looking. I just treat him as a friend though?

What do they teach in a good boxing class?

Unfortunately there is not a register of such men. Glad to read that your friends cared enough about you to let him know what he is like. It saddens me when women don't steer clear of men who deserve to be single because of their past behaviour. No woman with any self-respect should go near Ryan Giggs for example after his affair with his sister in law and using the courts to silence comments from Imogen Thomas.

i was in a long-term relationship with an extremely abusive person (didn't know that tho cuz they are a pathological liar/narsisist who did all the abuse behind my back. i mean that in a literal sense btw; like they have a disorder and need to seek professional help).

in most cases tho i reckon where there's not a personality disorder like my ex, it's just hard to spot because the abuser is obvs not going to admit their past to you and they will be on their best behaviour at first to 'win your heart' . eventually it will come out tho because abusers don't know what they're doing is abusive and feel entitled to do it, so will do it till they accept it's wrong. but yeah, there is a real myth out there that these people are easy to spot. like how many times have you heard 'a woman always knows when she's being cheated on'. i think i've lost count.

I'm in complete shock rn, I went through a breakup recently and there's another guy who likes me a lot (he's told me). He's good looking, a few years older, has a reputation for being a player and a few of my other friends know him. He comes off as really nice and friendly, said that I was a "star" because of how good a student I am, stood up for me when others bullied me etc. Like he's the most supportive guy although we are just acquaintances. I have only known him since last summer. Tbh I was thinking of going out with him till I found this out. He always claims to be a very nice guy but tbh he does come off as one.

Obv I'm not going to go out with him after hearing this btw but I just heard from mutual friends whom I trust that he was abusive to his ex gf, whom they also know, back in 2017. Apparently they used to argue a lot, he threw a plate of food in her face b/c she watches shows like the X Factor that he thinks are trashy, he made fun of her family for being working class, took away her teddy bear she'd had since childhood till her brother threatened him etc. Idc if she was horrible to him that's unacceptable and abuse.

Don't worry TSR Im not going to go out with him now! My friends say he's still got anger issues and can be very passive aggressive though that's his last relationship so they don't know how he treats women now. They are only friends b/c their parents are friends and his parents are rich and have connections. I haven't noticed this much myself but he did sulk and not talk to me for weeks because I didn't wish him a happy Valentines day, but then he didn't do it to me either??

But it's scary, have I been overlooking some massive red flags? I would have gone out with him, if my friends hadn't told him! Are abusive guys really that hard to spot?

Don’t ignore red flags. My recent ex boyfriend had a lot of aggressive traits that I ignored because “he was soft, sensitive and caring with me AT THE START, I was naive enough to think he would never direct this aggressiveness towards me because he liked me so much and he DID end up acting sadistically and horribly to me, and that was 5 months down the line, luckily I left before he could get physically aggressive with me. I was shocked because he was charming, made a load of promises, etc but I’m telling you, these people can flip in an instant to change into someone you don’t know. I mean with my ex it was within one random day after 4-5 months together that he flipped. These people are unreliable and will hurt you physically AND/or emotionally.

i was in a long-term relationship with an extremely abusive person (didn't know that tho cuz they are a pathological liar/narsisist who did all the abuse behind my back. i mean that in a literal sense btw; like they have a disorder and need to seek professional help).

in most cases tho i reckon where there's not a personality disorder like my ex, it's just hard to spot because the abuser is obvs not going to admit their past to you and they will be on their best behaviour at first to 'win your heart' . eventually it will come out tho because abusers don't know what they're doing is abusive and feel entitled to do it, so will do it till they accept it's wrong. but yeah, there is a real myth out there that these people are easy to spot. like how many times have you heard 'a woman always knows when she's being cheated on'. i think i've lost count.