I know we are not allowed to use this as a dating service and I'm not, I'm not trying to advertise myself I'd just like some advice really. Basically, I've recently realised I'm gay, and I'm a bit sad about it. I'm scared to admit it to anyone but I would really like to experiment. Maybe I'm not gay, maybe I'm just confused. Either way I don't know anyone I can talk to about this.
What is it like in gay clubs? Can you get a 'date', so to speak, really easily?
You don't have to decide if you are or aren't right away, and if you are gay, then there's no reason to be sad about it.
I don't have any experience with clubs or dating, sorry.
At the start, in one way, it's a bit rubbish. You realise you're different... but then that can be a good thing. You work out who you are and gradually get used to the idea.
(If it makes it easier for you, forget the label "gay" - you don't have to BE something, you just prefer the same sex!)
You really don't have to start going to gay bars and all that, but when you're ready they're not all as scary as they sound.
Check your PM's - I'd be happy to chat if you'd like to!
Without sounding pervy, feel free to talk to me about it in a private message if you ever want to talk. I understand it can be a bit upsetting because you worry people will judge you, but providing you have a good circle of friends and not idiots, it hopefully won't matter. My friends are all absolutely fine with it. Some are even a little overly enthusiastic.
As for clubs, it is possible to pick up a 'date' if by date you mean a one-off sexual partner. Dates for potential relationships are best found elsewhere, as clubs can be a bit of a meat-market with more sexual than romantic undertones.
Why would someone be sad for being gay? You have everything str8 couples have + you have a cool sense of fashion, more money, and if your guys is the same size as you, you are expanding your wardrobe.
Being gay is absolutely OK, as long as it is just part of your personality, not the essence.
U are born gay, so if U had not noticed that before, it's probably because you are not...
Check out some GLTB threads but you shouldn't be scared of being gay
Your sexuality is as much of a choice as the colour of your skin. Its nothing to be ashamed of either way.