I no longer want to wear the hijab.

I have a lot of friends who have broken away from religion.

You have to assess your own situation. How likely do you think it is that your family would 'break ties' with you if you came out? If you think it is very likely, take all the necessary steps to become independent and self-reliant. For a lot of my friends, this has meant getting a good job, having their own place and then breaking it to their parents - whatever the consequences were, they were at least in a position to support themselves.

I'd just like you to know that a lot of people are in your same boat; it is a slow process but it is a sure one!

P.S. You might want to read up on Irshad Manji.

I'm an 18 year old Somali who simply doesn't believe any more due to personal circumstances and researching more into religion and science.
Lately, I've been feeling like a hypocrite, walking around with a hijab on despite the change of my beliefs.
Two friends of mine have stopped wearing the hijab, but they're Bengali and their parents are less strict about covering up. I felt so envious of how much freedom they have.
I haven't told anyone that I no longer believe, as I'm too fearful of the consequences, but I know that I'm wearing the hijab for the wrong reasons. Religious friends have told me that they feel pride when wearing the hijab, but I feel nothing but frustration and anger at being restricted to show my hair. I fail to see why I can't show it - it's MY hair, I should be allowed to show it as much as I want, but it's not as easy as that.
The community I live in is very, very strict in terms of religion; I feel so emotionally isolated, and everyone seems to be so much happier than me.
The thing is, my whole family are devout Muslims who would surely kick me out if I dared to do such a thing.
This is genuinely getting me depressed; I don't know what to do. Can anyone help?

Muslim here and I say do what you want, but it might be best to do so at uni? And gradually lose it. That way it's not as much of a shock to your family if you one day decide "I don't want to wear the hijab"

To understand why we wear the hijab, we need to understand ultimate foundation of what it means to be a Muslim. To be a Muslim means to believe in only one God (the same God of Abraham, Moses, Jesus and Muhammad (peace be upon them)) and obey him. This would mean living our lives in a way which pleases God. The hijab is a commandment from God and that is the ultimate reason for wearing it.

We believe the one who created us knows what's good for us and it's only for our benefit to try our best to please him. The hijab is a commandment from Allah (swt). At the end of the day, to follow the commandments of Islam is only for our benefit. It won't affect Allah (swt) in any way whether we obey him or not. It's for your own benefit to please him.

Muslim here and I say do what you want, but it might be best to do so at uni? And gradually lose it. That way it's not as much of a shock to your family if you one day decide "I don't want to wear the hijab"

It's not just science. It's how I feel, too. I felt nothing - complete indifference - a year or so ago, after the death of my father. Now, I almost feel frustration when hearing about Islam; it's becoming some sort of aversion to me.
For as long as I could remember, Islam has been shovelled down my throat as "fact", and so I believed it to be so. It's only fairly recently that I began to feel differently.
I feel as if I've just woken up from a dream and realised that you genuinely do only have one life - why should I live it and do things that don't necessarily make me happy to please God? There's more to life than religion; a whole world is out there. I know that sounds cheesy, but it's how I feel.

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It's not just science. It's how I feel, too. I felt nothing - complete indifference - a year or so ago, after the death of my father. Now, I almost feel frustration when hearing about Islam; it's becoming some sort of aversion to me.
For as long as I could remember, Islam has been shovelled down my throat as "fact", and so I believed it to be so. It's only fairly recently that I began to feel differently.
I feel as if I've just woken up from a dream and realised that you genuinely do only have one life - why should I live it and do things that don't necessarily make me happy to please God? There's more to life than religion; a whole world is out there. I know that sounds cheesy, but it's how I feel.

I'm an 18 year old Somali who simply doesn't believe any more due to personal circumstances and researching more into religion and science.
Lately, I've been feeling like a hypocrite, walking around with a hijab on despite the change of my beliefs.
Two friends of mine have stopped wearing the hijab, but they're Bengali and their parents are less strict about covering up. I felt so envious of how much freedom they have.
I haven't told anyone that I no longer believe, as I'm too fearful of the consequences, but I know that I'm wearing the hijab for the wrong reasons. Religious friends have told me that they feel pride when wearing the hijab, but I feel nothing but frustration and anger at being restricted to show my hair. I fail to see why I can't show it - it's MY hair, I should be allowed to show it as much as I want, but it's not as easy as that.
The community I live in is very, very strict in terms of religion; I feel so emotionally isolated, and everyone seems to be so much happier than me.
The thing is, my whole family are devout Muslims who would surely kick me out if I dared to do such a thing.
This is genuinely getting me depressed; I don't know what to do. Can anyone help?

Are you an idiot or something, click on the link you just sent and scroll down.

Yeah take it son.



"Science has confirmed that the fly does indeed carry antidote, and it does have useful functions that the human-body could greatly benefit from, such as the soldiers who used flies' larvae to prevent bacterial infections."

Listen im not here to force you or anything, but the truth is living your life by islam is the way that will make you the happiest, if you just see it as God setting rules for us to make us miserable then I truly feel sorry for you. Allah only prohibits what is bad for us.

Islam is an all-embracing way of life. It extends over the entire spectrum of life, showing us how to conduct all human activities in a sound and wholesome manner. It does not allow a hierarchy of priests or intermediaries between Allah and human beings, no farfetched abstractions and no complicated rites and rituals.

Are you an idiot or something, click on the link you just sent and scroll down.

Yeah take it son.



"Science has confirmed that the fly does indeed carry antidote, and it does have useful functions that the human-body could greatly benefit from, such as the soldiers who used flies' larvae to prevent bacterial infections."

Can't the OP observe hijab in another way apart from covering her hair? I mean, no one really checks out a girl's hair or finds it sexually arousing. If she still dresses and behaves modestly then what's the difference?

Could I just ask, do you live in somalia, or in the uk? (apologies if i have somehow missed this- I did look). Because the consequences of not wearing the hijab are likely to be very different. As much as you want to be true to yourself, if you truly believe you would be kicked out, or suffer other serious consequences, maybe you should wait until you have more independence? It would still suck to be rejected by your family (although they may be more supportive than you think), but at least you would have somewhere to live.

I don't understand what you're saying here. I'm talking about the repercussions I would face from not wearing the hijab from my family and the community we live in..

No Offence to anyone but i genuinely feel given the question is related to the OP's future life, she should not take this as the right platform. It's probably better for her to go ahead and consult with different Islamic online forums and scholars. Personally i think you are in a slightly indifferent mental state where you are not processing information completely clearly! Correct me if i am wrong in making such an assumption? Maybe try a variety of sources to get good sound advice as some of the advice on here particularly that from non-muslims is a little inaccurate mainly because they don't understand the simplicity of Islam and only see the manipulated and hijacked version of the faith and are giving advice based on those pereceptions