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Saying one thing to your face and another behind your back

Hi,
I had a friend a few years ago that I was very close with and they supported me in everything that I did. I've been an anti-bullying campaigner and volunteer for the past 4 years and they have had my back the whole way through. Recently though (within the past 12 months) they have seemed to drift apart from me, and instead of supporting me, it feels as though they have something against me, as though they dislike my volunteer work. Recently though I have heard from people I barley know telling me how proud my friend is of me and how they can't stop singing my praises at every chance they get, but yet when I speak to them I would be lucky to get an "hello", never mind keep up the fantastic work, proud of you.

I know this may seem childish but I don't see why someone could change so quickly when nothing has happened. It makes me feel awful about my volunteer work as though I am doing something wrong. It's horrible to think we were so close and I feel as though my work has torn us apart, they were an amazing friend and i don't feel as though I can speak to them or even email them, because if I do, I feel as though I will have to apologise for doing so.

Sorry if this is confusing, but I hope some of you may be able to understand my situation in some small way and can advise me on perhaps why they would say one thing to my face and another behind my back.

Thank you!

Reply 1

Personinsertname

Did nothing change at all recently?
Perhaps a major event or a new person in your social group.
Personally joining an anti-bullying group and campaigning for such a thing is silly as you will get nothing done and people will still go through bullying and perhaps more when people talk about bullying at school lol.
One day campaigners went to my school and talked a about the dangers of both cyber bullying and bullying in school.
Next day whole school gets spammed by email ... and harassed.
You want one thing. But do your actions actually help the cause?