I said goodbye to my friends... suprisingly, I'm feeling lonely.

Nor very smart :| you shouldn't sacrifice something like this. But they don't hate you completely, you should be able to patch things up, they are your old friends after all.

Never take advice from someone who starts with this.

Venting/give me advice thread. Please keep anon.

A little while ago, I graduated University and decided to move into a place with my girlfriend. "How lovely" some of you may think, and it is in a bittersweet way. I appreciate her company and it's nice to have my own place.

However, I had to make a few sacrifices, one sacrifice that is particularly bothering me is my friends.

Now you see, the town which I currently live in is not my
hometown. I did had a few friends here, but not to the level as my hometown. This should help build some context.

I make friends easily with women. Thing is, I don't see them in a sexual light. I'm almost like "the nice guy" without the cringe worthy posts and the sense of entitlement to women just because I am nice to them. I literally see them as friends, and as good people.

Problem is my girlfriend must think I'm some catch, because she'd make my life hell for talking to those girls. Like, seriously. She did think I was going to run off with them it got a little bit ridiculous.

Then again, I got ridiculous for a bit as I would talk to them just as friends without telling my girlfriend. Sure she found out eventually and poop really did hit the fan. So I decides before we moved in together to just say goodbye to all my old friends, because it was too much hassle.

Changed my phone number, deleted Facebook, Twitter was pruned and all other accounts gone. So I'm practically dead to my friends now. I told a few I was going, and they got angry so they hate me. I never had that many friends, but the ones I did have meant so much to me. I'd love to just chill and chat one day, catch up see how everyone's doing and what not. I miss them, I feel lonely.

Now my happiness in being with my girlfriend is compromised. And I don't mean little rows, it's just constant bad moods all the time from us both. It's gotten to the point where I am considering taking my own death to just start over.

I need to start again, I'm not getting any younger and before you know it I'll be old and lonely. I don't know what to do. Anyone got any advice?

Thank you guys.

A relationship should not mean sacrifice, especially when it leads to isolation from your friendships. You can't just rely on her for companionship and she needs to get over her insecurities and understand this. Is it only your female friends she has problems with or the guys too?

Tell her, nicely and calmly, that although you love being with her you miss all the benefits having a friendship group brings to your social life. It's not that she is inadequate, just that as a human there are social needs that can only be met by hanging around friends with whom you have no romantic feelings for.

Your friends may feel like you've somewhat ditched them for your girlfriend and feel resentful or abandoned. Just apologise and explain why you felt you had to do what you did and it was nothing bad to do with them.

I was in a similar situation with an ex not long ago OP. If you need to chat just PM! Xx


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Never take advice from someone who starts with this.

Venting/give me advice thread. Please keep anon.

A little while ago, I graduated University and decided to move into a place with my girlfriend. "How lovely" some of you may think, and it is in a bittersweet way. I appreciate her company and it's nice to have my own place.

However, I had to make a few sacrifices, one sacrifice that is particularly bothering me is my friends.

Now you see, the town which I currently live in is not my
hometown. I did had a few friends here, but not to the level as my hometown. This should help build some context.

I make friends easily with women. Thing is, I don't see them in a sexual light. I'm almost like "the nice guy" without the cringe worthy posts and the sense of entitlement to women just because I am nice to them. I literally see them as friends, and as good people.

Problem is my girlfriend must think I'm some catch, because she'd make my life hell for talking to those girls. Like, seriously. She did think I was going to run off with them it got a little bit ridiculous.

Then again, I got ridiculous for a bit as I would talk to them just as friends without telling my girlfriend. Sure she found out eventually and poop really did hit the fan. So I decides before we moved in together to just say goodbye to all my old friends, because it was too much hassle.

Changed my phone number, deleted Facebook, Twitter was pruned and all other accounts gone. So I'm practically dead to my friends now. I told a few I was going, and they got angry so they hate me. I never had that many friends, but the ones I did have meant so much to me. I'd love to just chill and chat one day, catch up see how everyone's doing and what not. I miss them, I feel lonely.

Now my happiness in being with my girlfriend is compromised. And I don't mean little rows, it's just constant bad moods all the time from us both. It's gotten to the point where I am considering taking my own death to just start over.

I need to start again, I'm not getting any younger and before you know it I'll be old and lonely. I don't know what to do. Anyone got any advice?

Thank you guys.

Venting/give me advice thread. Please keep anon.

A little while ago, I graduated University and decided to move into a place with my girlfriend. "How lovely" some of you may think, and it is in a bittersweet way. I appreciate her company and it's nice to have my own place.

However, I had to make a few sacrifices, one sacrifice that is particularly bothering me is my friends.

Now you see, the town which I currently live in is not my
hometown. I did had a few friends here, but not to the level as my hometown. This should help build some context.

I make friends easily with women. Thing is, I don't see them in a sexual light. I'm almost like "the nice guy" without the cringe worthy posts and the sense of entitlement to women just because I am nice to them. I literally see them as friends, and as good people.

Problem is my girlfriend must think I'm some catch, because she'd make my life hell for talking to those girls. Like, seriously. She did think I was going to run off with them it got a little bit ridiculous.

Then again, I got ridiculous for a bit as I would talk to them just as friends without telling my girlfriend. Sure she found out eventually and poop really did hit the fan. So I decides before we moved in together to just say goodbye to all my old friends, because it was too much hassle.

Changed my phone number, deleted Facebook, Twitter was pruned and all other accounts gone. So I'm practically dead to my friends now. I told a few I was going, and they got angry so they hate me. I never had that many friends, but the ones I did have meant so much to me. I'd love to just chill and chat one day, catch up see how everyone's doing and what not. I miss them, I feel lonely.

Now my happiness in being with my girlfriend is compromised. And I don't mean little rows, it's just constant bad moods all the time from us both. It's gotten to the point where I am considering taking my own death to just start over.

I need to start again, I'm not getting any younger and before you know it I'll be old and lonely. I don't know what to do. Anyone got any advice?

Thank you guys.

I wish I could PM, but quite a few people know me for the wrong reasons on here. I'm only how I am because of my crippling loneliness. Thank you for the advice, I feel like I want to see how they are and just chill. Main problem is with female friends, although rare occasions she has issues with male friends.





It's not as easy as that. I love her, but I also love them (not in the same way).

She sounds really insecure and that's not your fault, you are entitled to as many friends, regardless of gender, without her say in the matter.

I personally, would either tell your girlfriend she needs to wise the **** up or you dump her. Sorry that sounds really harsh!
But you need to tell her that it's not on, you need friends. Get back in contact with your friends, if they are your real friends, they won't mind.

Be honest with yourself, is this relationship really worth it or will you ever be happy in it considering her behaviour?

Now we're living together it's different. Plus we've been together years and my family really like her. It's not as simple as that.

Venting/give me advice thread. Please keep anon.

A little while ago, I graduated University and decided to move into a place with my girlfriend. "How lovely" some of you may think, and it is in a bittersweet way. I appreciate her company and it's nice to have my own place.

However, I had to make a few sacrifices, one sacrifice that is particularly bothering me is my friends.

Now you see, the town which I currently live in is not my
hometown. I did had a few friends here, but not to the level as my hometown. This should help build some context.

I make friends easily with women. Thing is, I don't see them in a sexual light. I'm almost like "the nice guy" without the cringe worthy posts and the sense of entitlement to women just because I am nice to them. I literally see them as friends, and as good people.

Problem is my girlfriend must think I'm some catch, because she'd make my life hell for talking to those girls. Like, seriously. She did think I was going to run off with them it got a little bit ridiculous.

Then again, I got ridiculous for a bit as I would talk to them just as friends without telling my girlfriend. Sure she found out eventually and poop really did hit the fan. So I decides before we moved in together to just say goodbye to all my old friends, because it was too much hassle.

Changed my phone number, deleted Facebook, Twitter was pruned and all other accounts gone. So I'm practically dead to my friends now. I told a few I was going, and they got angry so they hate me. I never had that many friends, but the ones I did have meant so much to me. I'd love to just chill and chat one day, catch up see how everyone's doing and what not. I miss them, I feel lonely.

Now my happiness in being with my girlfriend is compromised. And I don't mean little rows, it's just constant bad moods all the time from us both. It's gotten to the point where I am considering taking my own death to just start over.

I need to start again, I'm not getting any younger and before you know it I'll be old and lonely. I don't know what to do. Anyone got any advice?

Thank you guys.

Living together is like a test for some relationships, many fail. How your family feels about your girlfriend is irrelevant to your happiness. It really can be as simple as that. Your girlfriend is borderline emotionally abusive.