Hi guys,
I'm from London and go to a university in the Midlands. I haven't been diagnosed with social anxiety but I'm pretty sure I have it. Either that or I'm an extremely shy guy. Before going to uni I never went out clubbing. I don't like it. The loud terrible music, awkwardly dancing with people you haven't met before. Before I joined university I joined this group of people who preferred pubs to clubs. We went out on two occasions (freshers and the week after) but since then they've just gone off into their own friendship groups.
I don't even know if I'd class my flatmates as friends. I can occasionally talk to them but I'll spend most of the time (in fact, unless they're playing a game, all day) in my bedroom. They invite me out to clubbing but, as I said before, I don't really like clubbing. I'm living with them next year but I'm not sure I actually want to. One of the guys is extremely immature and just shows off in front of the others.
I also have a couple of friends/acquaintances on my course, but they only sit next to me in one of our four modules as that one module has less people in it and they have friends that are in the other three. We never organise to go out with each other either, they just don't seem interested in interacting with me outside of lectures.
I'm not in any societies as I feel like it's too late to join them. If I join now, people would have already made their friendship groups and therefore I feel they won't let me in. Also, it took a lot of courage but I myself actually set up a society. However, as it was made quite late on in the year we're not getting any members, and I feel like giving it all up. It's also a lot of effort, and I'm extremely lazy.
I'd describe myself as an introvert. However, I don't like spending every single night in my bed watching YouTube videos or Netflix. I want to get out there and make friends. I get jealous when I walk around campus on my own and see groups of friends having a laugh. People have even already started organising holidays with each other which is something I would have loved to do if I had made good friends here.
Also, there's a Level 1 FA Coaching Course I was interested in doing in which I can meet people with similar interests to me (football), but it costs around £150 and it puts me off that I don't know anyone else doing the course.
Sorry for the long essay, but do you guys have any tips of how to make friends for a guy with social anxiety? I hate lying to my family saying I've made great friends here because I really haven't...