I have a problem. I am trying to avoid becoming the flatmate I myself hated last year, but my flatmates are not making it particularly easy.
I like to think of myself as a pretty chill flatmate. Sometimes even too chill maybe. The problem started when I moved in with flatmates that are even more chill than me.
I love my flatmates to bits, but I really do not know how to deal when they leave dishes in their room for weeks. Especially when they go away for more than one night, like when going home for the holidays etc.
I do not have any issues with leaving dishes for a day or two, maybe even longer during busy times like exams or those two/three weeks when all university assignments are due and we're all running around stressing. I have also been turning the other cheek when my flatmates use my toothpaste or body wash or even borrow my hair brush, simply because one of my flatmates last year would complain about every single thing that was done in our flat last year. And most of us found it terribly exhausting and annoying most of all.
But I am now finding myself in the situation where I am very tempted to voice my concerns about my new flatmates' habits and I know if I was the recipient of my concerns I would be annoyed that someone pointed it out.
Even though I can agree that I myself am a slob sometimes, there are certain things I could never justify doing. Like leaving dishes in my room if I go away for more than one night. For one I don't particularly see why anyone would like to leave dishes in their room for starters. I would rather leave mine in the kitchen so I wouldn't live in the smell of food, and naturally I would rather they left them in the kitchen as well so I at least could justify doing them as I love doing dishes.
Because we have had some issues with mice and I don't like knowing there's dirty dishes around, I am now tempted to do their dirty dishes even though I know it would be some kind of invasion of privacy going into their room to get them.
I guess the question is:
How can I resolve this recurring issue without turning into that annoying flatmate I hated last year or will I just have to continue turning the other cheek?