I don’t know what to do about this, I’m so hurt right now. If I’m being too emotional do let me know.
His boss has given him many opportunities and a very promising future in his company. I know he really looks up to him, and that’s fine.
So it started when we spoke about something that’s happening in the world right now, a very touchy topic. I was texting him about it and he told me his boss told him something else that was on some internet articles that were later proven false, but I already knew it was false just from the way it sounded at the time. I did somewhat disrespect his boss because I didn’t appreciate the misinformation and those claims could be seen as offensive for my group of people. I expect grown adults to know better.
So from then on, he had been talking to his boss about it and what I would tell him about that topic (he didn’t tell him what I said about his boss, just my views on the situation). I had no idea he was telling his boss about my views. I know it’s because he wanted to learn more about what’s happening so he was sharing information, it was innocent and that’s fine. Two days ago he kind of blew up and told me that me and his boss are having it out for each other and he doesn’t want to be in the middle. He told me he doesn’t want to see two people he cares about being in conflict and it’s clear we don’t like each other. He told me his boss thinks I’m bigoted and has accused me of being against certain groups. I’m literally not, and I asked my best friend why his boss said that and he said he doesn’t know why and doesn’t understand it himself. That he told him I'm not etc. I’m ngl I'm really offended that someone who doesn’t know me and just heard my stance on something has accused that of me, I did get emotional and accuse his boss of being against my group of people for even making that claim against me for no good reason. My best friend told me he doesn’t want to talk about his boss with me anymore.
So today, I spoke about that same topic again, and my best friend told me he rather not talk about it anymore, I asked him if he was still talking about it with his boss and he is. That’s when my best friend told me to stop mentioning him and told me “If I have to pick someone it's the guy that pays my bills. So tough luck” I just responded with “what” and he said “I'm saying if you want to cause a divide, it's a losing battle for you” me: “Wow, so you’ve made this about me as a person vs him”
Him: “No you did. You both did”.
I never asked him to choose between us. I never would, why would I want to mess with his career? In my eyes he’s just said that out of the blue. Can someone that’s unbiased in this situation just tell me who’s at fault and if I should move past what he said to me? I’m so hurt right now and I don’t even know what to think after he’s clearly told me he’d pick him over me if it came down to it. Later on he said “It's not about you as a person. I like my job and I'm not going to listen to you talk **** about my boss. It’s about shutting up.” I responded with “he called me a bigot” and he said “Yes you both have said things I don’t agree with. There’s been slander on both sides. I said if I had to. I don't know any real world situation off the top of my head where I would have to cut one of you off”