Did my mum treat me badly growing up?

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Growing up, my mum would shout and slap me a lot. One time when I was about nine, I called a teacher by a different name as a joke (it was not offensive in any way) and she told me off mildly. I told my mum what I did, and she started shouting at me, telling me that the teacher would be crying at home for me bullying her. She was hitting me and told me she was going to call the police for my behaviour.
On other occasions, she has additionally taken all my possessions out of my room and told me I don't own anything anymore, and packed my clothes into a suitcase and driven me down the road, telling me she would take me to the juvenile correctional rehabilitation facility a few minutes away.
I grew up thinking I was very badly behaved, yet my dad tells me that I caused very few problems.
My mum would later apologise for her actions and tell me that other mums do the same thing to their kids, so I was wondering if that was the case. Thanks.
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Your mother sounds abusive. Slapping you for no reason, and driving you off to the curb and pretending she was sending you off somewhere? That is not normal behavior at all. Then to make up excuses saying that 'all parents treat their kids this way'? Toxic.
Im sorry to hear that you were treated like this :console:
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im gonna be honest, my mum screams at me a lot (still), i find it normal because in my culture the parents are super strict and hit their kids so it seems normal to me but probably not for other people.
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Sounds like your mum may have been going through some stuff. It's hard to be a parent, we dont get a manual for it! I got hit with the belt and stuff, but I dont hold a grudge as I know my parents love me and they didnt know better and they had lots going on
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Sounds ok to me, though I suspect some white British people will see it as abuse.
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Sounds ok to me, though I suspect some white British people will see it as abuse.
Racist much ? Or is it just me who thinks this?
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Racist much ? Or is it just me who thinks this?
I'm white, just not white British.
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Sounds ok to me, though I suspect some white British people will see it as abuse.
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Racist much ? Or is it just me who thinks this?
Tbh you’re right.
im white british and this does seem like abuse to me, however my friends who have been raised differently would see this is normal.
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(Original post by d.harley)
Growing up, my mum would shout and slap me a lot. One time when I was about nine, I called a teacher by a different name as a joke (it was not offensive in any way) and she told me off mildly. I told my mum what I did, and she started shouting at me, telling me that the teacher would be crying at home for me bullying her. She was hitting me and told me she was going to call the police for my behaviour.
On other occasions, she has additionally taken all my possessions out of my room and told me I don't own anything anymore, and packed my clothes into a suitcase and driven me down the road, telling me she would take me to the juvenile correctional rehabilitation facility a few minutes away.
I grew up thinking I was very badly behaved, yet my dad tells me that I caused very few problems.
My mum would later apologise for her actions and tell me that other mums do the same thing to their kids, so I was wondering if that was the case. Thanks.
Abusive mothers do the same to their kids yes
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(Original post by rxyaltyx)
im gonna be honest, my mum screams at me a lot (still), i find it normal because in my culture the parents are super strict and hit their kids so it seems normal to me but probably not for other people.
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Sounds ok to me, though I suspect some white British people will see it as abuse.
This is the kind of parent my mum would hate to be. She’s African and she would never condone this at all.
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Sounds ok to me, though I suspect some white British people will see it as abuse.
So you'll treat your kids like this?
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So you'll treat your kids like this?
I am not going to have kids.
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I am not going to have kids.
Probably the right decision if you think the behaviour OP described is ok tbh
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Racist much ? Or is it just me who thinks this?
Not necessarily. In White British culture nlwadays, hitting a form of child abuse and looked down upon and are more lax in discipline (if you get me), whilst in other cultures (Asian communities, African etc) slapping is seen as acceptable form of discipline.
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Sounds like your mum may have been going through some stuff. It's hard to be a parent, we dont get a manual for it! I got hit with the belt and stuff, but I dont hold a grudge as I know my parents love me and they didnt know better and they had lots going on
I'm sorry you got hit with a belt as a kid, although you were used to it, it still must have been horrible. I know that my parents (especially my mum) did have issues going on, but she only told me a few years ago, when she had stopped treating me like that, so I didn't understand why at the time. I hope that it still does not happen to you.
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Probably the right decision if you think the behaviour OP described is ok tbh
My parents did much worse to me so yes, I am not particularly shocked.
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This is abuse., but I’m not shocked. I got treated similar to you. I’m Asian though
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My parents did much worse to me so yes, I am not particularly shocked.
And my dad beat me senseless several times during my youth doesn't mean I consider the abuse of children to any degree as ok and acceptable because 'hey, I had it worse'
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